THE BOOK
*THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN*
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ROSSI PARVANOVA
THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN
The covers pictures:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Publisher, Editor and Corrector:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Printing house: PULSIO AD
The city of Sofia 1592, Druzhba,
“Iliya Beshkov” str. No.3
Author: ROSSI PARVANOVA
Bulgaria, the town of Pleven, 2025
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Author: ROSSI PARVANOVA
Bulgaria, the town of Pleven, 2025
ISBN 978-619-04-0547-4
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Dear reader, with the book
THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN
I want to convey the way I achieve
what I want. The book reveals how
you can help yourself to achieve
the success you want.
Change is completely within your
control and you choose what and
how to change something about
yourself to achieve the success
you want. We create our own
future by the choices we make
in the present. I wish a better
and happier life for you!
Author: ROSSI PARVANOVA
Bulgaria, the town of Pleven, 2025
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THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN
Cover pictures:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Publisher, Corrector and Editor:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Printing house: PULSIO AD
The city of Sofia 1592, Druzhba,
“Iliya Beshkov” str. No. 3
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CONTENTS:
THE BEGINNING OF THE CHANGE – 7
THE POWER OF BELIEF – 20
MONEY – 24
JUSTICE – 28
APPROVAL- 30
TO LOVE AND APPRECIATE OURSELVES – 33
PRAYER – 35
FAITH – 40
MENTAL INDEPENDENCE – 44
RESPONSIBILITY – 49
KINDNESS – 52
THE POWER IS WITHIN US – 55
TODAY AND NOW – 58
FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND IMAGINATION – 60
LOVE – 63
GOOD CHARACTER AND PRINCIPLES – 67
PURPOSE AND PLAN – 72
TEAM – 76
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PASSIVE OR NEW ACTION – 78
FORECASTS – 81
HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE – 84
THE CHILD IS WITHIN – 86
FRIENDS AND SOCIAL RELATIONS – 88
BALANCE – 90
FEARLESS AND BALANCED – 93
MY CHANGE – 96
HOLISTIC HEALTH – 99
FORGIVENESS AND PAST – 103
TAKE ACTION – 106
THE DARK AND THE LIGHT SIDE – 114
REALITY AND HARMONY – 116
HAPPINESS – 118
SOCIETY – 125
I DEDICATE – 127
ABOUT ME – 130
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THE BEGINNING OF CHANGE
Life has presented me with a great
challenge even before I was born –
from the time my mother
was pregnant with me.
This challenge sparked my courage
and motivated me to change and
lead a better and happier life.
I overcame this challenge
when I was 48 years old.
The consequences were that
I had habits that did not attract
a happy life.
When I came of age, I noticed that
my mother was competing with me –
to have nicer clothes, for people
to prefer her company, etc.
Only later did I find out the reason
for this. My mother had grown up
in a family with four children. She
was the youngest and unwanted.
All her young life she has competed
with her brother and two sisters for
attention, new clothes, etc.
This is all she knew, and
she treated me the same way.
I applied to a university for a degree
in mathematics but I was not
accepted. After that I got married,
had a son and 10 years later –
a divorce.
I raised my son with a lot of love.
At the age of 44, I registered my
own tourism company and moved
to live in the capital.
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One day while I was reading
a magazine, I saw an advertisement
for herbal tea for clear skin and
lustrous hair and the phone number
of the woman who was making this
tea was listed as well.
I decided to call her and made an
appointment with her.
I visited her, we had tea and talked
about many things. The woman was
young and it turned out that she was
also involved in the occult.
She then proceeded to tell me that
I had a spell put on me and if I
wanted, she could break it.
I looked up information about it and
found out that every person has
chakras with energy that rotates
clockwise.
In magic, the energy of their chakras
would rotate in a counter-clockwise
direction and unpleasant events are
attracted.
I called the woman again to arrange
a second meeting.
She read my coffee cup and told me
she saw a fence separating my
parents and the woman who had
put a spell when my mother was
pregnant with me.
That’s all she told me.
I easily guessed it was my aunt who
lived next door to us and a wooden
fence separated the two yards.
My aunt was the wife of my
father’s brother who had died
fighting in the Second World War
and she was a widow with one child.
At the time the woman read my cup
my aunt had long since passed away.
I shared with her that I thought
it was my aunt.
And she told me what I had to do
and I managed to break the spell.
I visited the woman again. She told
me the spell was broken and had
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She told me that the spell was
broken and had returned to my aunt
and would work misfortune
into her life.
I asked the woman how this could
work since my aunt had long since
passed away.
She explained that my aunt was now
reincarnated in another country and
was now just a little girl.
At that time, I did not believe
in reincarnation. That was until
I visited Paris.
I was accompanied by a few
people and we went to the center
of Paris in the evening.
We were walking in the most
ordinary city garden when suddenly
I felt with all my being that this place
was familiar to me and I had been
here before.
Later I realized that I had lived
in Paris in a previous life and when
I visited the garden my karmic
memory had awakened.
The word karma translates to
„cause and effect“.
We create the causes ourselves
by our choices of how to act and
then experience the consequences
caused by our actions.
* The causes are the choices
we make and the effects are
our actions.
Each person’s karma is created by
all the choices /causes/ and actions
/effects/ they have made in the past
up to this point.
Each person creates his own karma.
Each person’s karma is constantly
changed by their choices and actions
in the present, whether they want it
or not.
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And these choices and actions
are constantly accumulating and
their constant repetition creates
habits that are deeply ingrained
in each person.
Each person prefers to make
the same choices as they have
already, become habits, and it is
much easier to do that rather than
having to make the effort and think
how to act and what to do all
the time.
This process whereby we accumulate
the same choices and actions,
whereby we create our habits,
we define as and call karma.
Each person can change their
own karma by changing their
way of thinking and their habits.
After I broke the spell, nothing
changed in my life.
I realized that I was having
a mindset and habits that were
attracting trouble.
The reason I wasn’t living happily
was my mindset and my habits,
but that realization did nothing
to change my mindset, my habits,
or my life.
When it comes to it, many people
believe they can’t change.
However, I have decided to change
so that I can attract a happy life.
After a while, I found out that change
is not easy, it requires strong will,
a lot of time, perseverance and
a lot of concentration, especially
at the beginning of the change,
then it gradually became easier
and finally a new habit was formed.
I started looking for ways to change,
to live happily, which for me means
to be healthy and beautiful /this is
necessary for my self-esteem and
for my contacts in society/, so that
people want to communicate
with me and
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I with them, to enjoy life every
day and my life and for it to be
exciting and wonderful.
I have found different ways
to change my mindset and habits
to live happily such as rituals, charts,
psychotherapists, changing my
emotional tuning and more.
I started with autosuggestion
/self-suggestion/, because when
someone constantly repeats
a sentence over and over again,
it always comes true.
Everybody does their own
autosuggestion all the time with
their everyday thoughts, whether
they want to or not.
When we think about something
constantly and for a long time,
it gains power and after a while
our subconscious mind turns
it into a physical reality.
The best autosuggestion is when
we express our gratitude.
The art of being grateful is mastered
by many socially respected people
such as artists, scientists, singers,
architects, athletes and others.
When these people are rewarded
for their good work and for
achievements, they express a lot of
gratitude to the people they work
with and to their loved ones if they
have received support from them.
I started autosuggestion by saying
three sentences, every morning
and every evening.
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I repeated these sentences out loud
/you can do it only mentally, too/
several times, it takes less than three
minutes in total:
‘I am grateful that I fully approve
of myself at any age.’
‘I am grateful that I am fully
confident in myself.’
‘I am grateful that I am completely
healthy and completely happy.’
The first sentence is extremely
important because only when we
approve of ourselves, only then
can we value ourselves, respect
ourselves, be confident in ourselves
and succeed in our endeavors.
When a person does not approve
of himself, then he does not respect
himself, does not value himself,
is not confident in himself and
cannot succeed.
When a person approves and values
themself, they take care of themself
and satisfy their own needs first.
When we begin to approve
of ourselves in every moment and
take care of ourselves first, only
then do we begin to attract happy
and wonderful events into our lives.
* When we fully approve
of ourselves in every moment, only
then do we fully appreciate, respect
and love ourselves and only then
attract a happy life.
When we approve of and appreciate
ourselves, only then do we begin
to approve and appreciate other
people, because we are taught
to have that attitude.
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Then they reciprocate with the same
attitude and thus gradually our life
becomes better, happier and
we gain an inner sense of security.
The more we approve of ourselves,
the more affection and love we
radiate and receive, we become
more self-confident and people
trust us.
That’s how my mindset started
to change, as I changed my habits
and thus my whole life. These three
sentences can be said without
showing gratitude:
‘I fully approve of myself at any age,
now and in the future.’
‘I am fully confident in myself, now
and in the future.’
‘Now and in the future, I am
completely healthy and completely
happy.’
All autosuggestion sentences can
be said this way, without saying
thank you.
What is important is to say them
more often, maybe even ten times
a day – up to you.
You may take one day off a week
or a month, or when you go on
vacations and excursions. You must
decide if you need some time off
and when to take it.
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* You can use both version of
the autosuggestion sentences –
by showing your gratitude,
and without saying ‘thank you’
at the same time.
All sentences autosuggestion
expressions, no matter if they are
showing your gratitude or not, must
be used in present tense, not in past
tense, neither in future tense,
because they will not work.
All of them must be positive
sentences in order to bring a change
for a better life.
When these statements are not
positive, you will not change for
the better, and you will attract
unpleasant events.
For example, when you do not like
your way of communication with
other people, then you can say
to yourself the following positive
autosuggestion sentence in
the morning and in the evening:
‘I am grateful that I communicate
with love, joy, support and with
a sense of camaraderie and
reciprocity.’
‘Now and in the future I
communicate with love, joy, support
and with a sense of camaraderie
and reciprocity.’ /for autosuggestion
without showing gratitude/
When you are being treated
for something, you can use
the autosuggestion by repeating
a positive sentence related
to your health.
It is important NOT to mention
the disease, because by doing so
you will only increase its strength
with the power of autosuggestion.
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Rather only state the part of you
that you want to be healthy.
For example:
‘I am grateful that my eyes
are always perfectly healthy.’
‘My eyes are always perfectly
healthy’ /for autosuggestion
without showing gratitude/
‘I am grateful that my head
is always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my skin
is always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my hands
are always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my legs
are always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my psyche
is always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my lungs
are always perfectly healthy.’
‘I am grateful that my heart
is always perfectly healthy.’
Or any other body part.
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Your mind will at first resist changing
its way of thinking and habits, so you
will start having thoughts that would
make you feel like it is pointless to
continue with the autosuggestion.
When you start doing
the autosuggestion exercise, your
mind will put your old thoughts
as opposition to the new positive
suggestions you are trying to
in still, and
that will create discomfort, your old
way of thinking will make you doubt
if the autosuggestion can actually
change your way of thinking.
When this happens, you will have
to show a lot persistence and
perseverance to continue up
with the autosuggestion in spite
of all these thoughts that invade
your head.
The more you repeat the positive
sentences, the more the doubts
diminish and eventually they
disappear fully which is a sign that
your mindset has changed towards
the desired direction.
Would your old or new thoughts
prevail?
This fully depends on your
persistence and perseverance
to keep doing the autosuggestion
exercise despite any doubts you
might have on the ability to change.
Any a person mind can work
for or against him.
Through autosuggestion you can
change your way of thinking and
your habits, thereby changing
the habits of your mind to teach
it to work in your favor.
Changing your mindset will not
happen in a day, nor in a week,
nor in a month, it takes more time.
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The change can happen in a few
months, or in a year or more,
or autosuggestion directs you
to change something else in yourself
for the change you want to happen.
The change happens gradually, while
the old habits gradually disappear
and the new habits are gradually
inculcated and become lasting
and permanent.
* Any change of the mindset and
habits requires great courage,
persistence, a lot of time and effort.
Do the self-suggestion exercise
to create good habits and good
character.
Then the material things you want
appear in your life on their own,
because as you change, the old
things you attracted before
the change disappear and give
place for the new things that you
begin to attract into your life.
This is all determined by the change
you make.
When you change, you also change
the circumstances around you,
because you begin to attract new
things, and thus change your
whole life.
When you change but the people
around you don’t change, you will
abandon them and then other
people come into your life – people
who think like you.
At first you may not like it, and
it may not feel good, but it is
the natural law of harmonious
attraction – those who are alike
attract each other.
For me the change came after a year.
The autosuggestion I was doing
brought new things in my life –
I started eating healthier, I became
healthier and more confident
in myself.
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I felt that the autosuggestion is like
water, which drop by drop will
destroy the hardest rock, and in
the same way it changed my most
ingrained habit.
My water drops are the daily positive
sentences. Here you can see the first
law of dialectical materialism at work:
‘Quantitative accumulations lead
to qualitative changes.’
For example, a child begins to learn
to play the piano and each day
practices and accumulates an amount
of many hours of piano playing that
changes the child so that they can
play the piano.
The qualitative change of the child
is that they can play the piano, as
a result of the accumulated amount
of many hours of practice.
Daily self-suggestion accumulates
and leads to change and the building
of a new way of thinking and new
habits.
It takes some time to achieve
the desired change.
I continued doing the autosuggestion
exercise and started changing
the sentences I use, depending
on what I wanted to change in
my character and /or in my life.
There was a point of time when
I increased the number of positive
sentences, which I said every day,
because I wanted the change
to come quicker.
But this just forced the process,
and in the end only delayed it.
Rapid change is not good for
the psyche and the nervous system
because the mind will be overexcited
when you try to autosuggestion too
many different things.
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* Autosuggestion should be done
moderately, constantly and
continuously so that it become
ingrained as a new habit.
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THE POWER OF BELIEF
Every person has their own belief
system.
Every person’s beliefs are deeply
rooted in them and they
determine what to accept from
the opportunities in life.
People prefer to take
the opportunities they believe
in, and don’t accept the ones they
don’t believe in, even if they might
be better for them.
Оur beliefs might be quite different
from our desires.
Each person’s programming of their
beliefs is shaped by their genes and
karma /habits that have been formed
through the accumulated choices and
actions in their past up to this point/.
Each person’s belief programming
is then built upon from birth until
about the age of four.
Imagine that a young child under
the age of four was often told that
they were smart, beautiful and had
a good character.
The praises sink into the child’s mind,
and the child begins to believe
it is so, henceforth this becomes
the child’s belief.
And when the child grows up
this belief follows them in every
situation.
This belief also brings forth other
similar beliefs such as good
self-esteem, confidence, etc.
Just as you have accepted your
beliefs, that were passed down
to you from the people who have
raised
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you to your fourth year, so have
they accepted them from the people
who have raised them, and the same
goes for the generation before,
and so forth.
Changing your belief system
as an adult takes a lot of time,
persistence, concentration and
a strong will.
Your beliefs shape your body
and your relationships.
When you don’t believe you are
beautiful, even if you are beautiful
by birth, your beauty becomes
invisible to yourself and others
because you radiate such a belief
which also determines other
people’s attitude towards you.
When a person has a belief that
they are insecure about themself,
then people notice that and treat
them as a person who is not
confident and others will not rely
on them.
Beliefs shape your physical
appearance, your mindset,
and your entire life.
Beliefs are strongly ingrained habits
about the way you view yourself,
reality and your relationships
in society.
You only attract and participate in
events that you believe in.
If you don’t like your beliefs, these
are the challenges in your life that
you can change.
In order for all of your beliefs
to be completely beneficial to you
and for you to live happily, you can
use the following autosuggestion
sentences:
‘I am grateful that all my beliefs
are always fully beneficial to me.
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‘All my beliefs are always fully
beneficial to me.’
/for autosuggestion without
showing gratitude/
You can say both sentences about
autosuggestion – minimum one year.
In the sentences, the word „all „
is obligatory to prevent you from
having beliefs that do not bring you
a happy life and
the word „fully“ is also obligatory,
because there are different degrees
of the word – beneficial, more
beneficial, most beneficial
and fully beneficial.
With this autosuggestion sentence,
you stipulate all your beliefs to
bring you only happiness in life.
To accelerate the change of your
beliefs, make a prayer with
the second sentence:
‘All my beliefs are always fully
beneficial to me.’, for a specific
period of one, two, or three years,
and to specify exactly for which
years, you want all your beliefs
to be fully beneficial to you.
Write the prayer on a piece of paper
and say the prayer only once before
or after the first year has begun,
even if there is only a little time
left of the first year.
During the prayer period, you should
not read the prayer from the piece
of paper, not even in your mind, and
you should not make another prayer
for the same thing.
After the period of the prayer has
passed, burn the piece of paper
with the written prayer.
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When you want to continue this
prayer, you can write the same
prayer again for a certain period for
the next year, or for the next two or
three years, on a new piece of paper.
You can say prayers without setting
a time period for them.
However, as you know it is not
pleasant if someone is constantly
asking you for the same thing over
and over again, so likewise don’t
repeat the same prayer all the time.
A better option is to read the prayer
from a piece of paper only once and
for it to be effective for a certain
period of time – one, two or three
years and to specify exactly
for which years.
Once the prayer period is over,
you should burn the piece of paper
with the prayer written on it.
Nothing is predetermined except
when you believe in it, and thus you
will limit yourself.
Everyone’s beliefs can change at any
time, so take action to change your
beliefs so that they are beneficial
to you and you can live happily.
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MONEY
Money wasn’t always enough
for what I wanted. I realized that
money can’t decide where it goes.
My thoughts were the ones
determining how much money
should i have.
I realized that by constantly thinking
about whether the money would
be enough to last me till the end
of the month, I was causing it to
happen.
When a person is constantly thinking
about something, it happens by
the power of autosuggestion, even
if they don’t actually want this to
happen.
My mindset determined how much
money I would have, but even
though I knew the reason, my
thoughts remained the same.
I already knew that hoping and
wishing alone would accomplish
nothing. It takes action, time
commitment and perseverance,
so I started an autosuggestion
exercise with the following sentence:
‘I am grateful that I always have
an abundance of my own money,
enough for everything I need and
want, that makes me feel utterly
happy.’
It is imperative to say the part:
‘that makes me feel utterly happy’,
because you can have a lot of money
that does not bring you happiness
and does not make you feel happy.
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For a long time, I used to repeat
the sentence in the morning and in
the evening, sometimes even during
the day when I felt it was necessary.
I also did a prayer about it for
a certain period of time, saying
exactly for which years I want to have
an abundance of my own money.
I said the prayer only one time before
the first year of the period began.
My life began to change in the best
way, especially after the prayer
I made.
I started to feel special, I started
going to restaurants often with
co-workers and friends, and when
I’m at a restaurant I order something,
I actually want to eat regardless
of the price.
And I started buying the things I like
and want, regardless of the price.
And the money always comes just
in time for what I need and want.
My colleagues from other travel
agencies that I sell to and whose
excursions and vacations I also offer
on commission, have started
offering me low-priced excursions
and vacations in Bulgaria and
abroad for the good collaboration.
So, every year I go on excursions
and holidays together with other
colleagues who, like me, have been
invited for their good collaboration.
As I changed, I sometimes reverted
to my old way of thinking.
For example, I ordered the cheapest
thing on the menu, even though
I wanted something else, etc.
However, the prayer I made
and the autosuggestion I did
daily continued changing me,
and the more time passed,
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I rarely went back to my old way
of thinking until the new way was
rooted inside my mind
and it became a habit.
I realized that I don’t depend on
money, and that money depends
on my mindset.
My thoughts are the ones that
attract how much money I have.
Besides, if I am not living happily
and my life is not wonderful, even
if I have money in abundance, what
is the use of it?
It is not enough to have money
in abundance, I must
also enjoy life with it.
There was a time when I had plenty
of money and then I wanted to go
on a ski vacation in the winter, but
I never did.
It was before I started changing
my mindset. At the time I didn’t
allow myself to go on that trip
even though I had the money.
Money is just a formality;
the essential thing is to feel special
and confident. I didn’t feel special
and had no self-esteem at that time.
* The most precious things cannot
be bought with money like nobility,
health, education, confidence,
self-esteem, happiness, love,
delicate, wisdom, etc.
Everyone must earn money to exist,
but one must not exist merely
to earn money.
Leave your mark by helping
the people with whatever you
can, without expecting anything
in return, not even gratitude.
This way people also support
you with whatever they can.
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For this purpose, you can make
the following autosuggestion
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
generous, utterly initiative, and
utterly noble, which makes me
feel utterly happy.’
It is imperative that you say:
‘which makes me feel utterly happy’,
because you may be generous,
initiative and noble, and still might
not feel happy when you allow other
people to have control over your life.
With the quote: ‘which makes me
feel utterly happy’ you elicit actions
whereby these qualities only serve
to make you feel utterly happy.
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JUSTICE
When you encounter injustice do not
let it affect your confidence and your
self-esteem. Don’t allow yourself
to think: ‘If they can do it, so can I.’
People are different, and when
someone has a mindset and
character traits that make them
successful at something, it doesn’t
mean that other people have
the same mindset and the same
awareness to succeed at
the same thing.
* Don’t compare yourself
to others because no two characters
are the same.
Things that you can do, other people
can’t and vice versa, just because
other people can do something,
does not mean you can do it.
Each person has a different level
of awareness so it is absolutely
pointless to keep track of other
people’s possessions and abilities
instead of taking action to achieve
your own goals and dreams.
Each person’s level of awareness is
determined by their mindset, lifestyle
/social environment/, genes and
karma /habits built up through
the accumulated choices and actions
in the past to this point of time/.
Do not seek justice always and
everywhere and do not ask people
and the world to be as you want
them to be.
What is fair for you may not be fair
for other people or for you in other
circumstances.
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When you think that someone has
done something that is not fair,
do not make an assessment without
knowing the facts that caused that
injustice.
Things are almost never only black
or only white. If you found yourself
in the same circumstances, you
would probably do the same.
Everyone has the right to be
whatever they want to be.
Let other people choose their
own path, just as they let you
choose yours.
Let go of your preconceived
expectations about other people
and the world.
Realizing this is important
to leading a happy life.
Set goals, make plans for your goals,
and act to make them come true so
that you can be a person of action,
not an observer of what other people
do and whether what they do is fair.
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APPROVAL
Don’t seek other people’s approval
for your actions. You can seek other
people’s approval only if you are not
dependent on it.
All people are different hence their
opinions also differ.
If you want everyone to approve
of you, it means you are not
confident in yourself, you don’t
believe in your own decisions and
actions, and you will not be able
to achieve the success you want.
You must not allow other people’s
opinions to take priority over your
own views, and don’t let other
people’s opinions determine the way
you live, because you will not be
able to grow nor change for a better
and happier life.
You need to understand that there
will always be people
who disapprove of you.
Furthermore, in your quest to have
all people approve of you, they will
be able to manipulate you very easily
and use you to their own advantage.
Don’t let other people control your
life by allowing their approval to be
more important than your own
opinion.
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Don’t let other people approve of
your needs. Determine for yourself
what to do and how to live,
respecting only your own approval
and opinion.
You are the only person who knows
exactly what your needs are.
You are the only person who knows
what is best for you.
And you are the only person you can
count on at any moment and always.
* You must not allow yourself
to be dependent on other
people’s approval – this
is the key to a happy life.
* You can help each other, but don’t
rely on other people, rely only on
yourself.
The less we need other people’s
opinions, the more confidence
we have in ourselves, and hence
the more confidence others
have in us.
When we are not influenced by
other people’s opinions, it is proof
that we are confident, fearless,
we like, love and respect ourselves.
With these qualities, you can always
succeed in any undertaking.
* When we respect our own
opinion first, it means that
we are independent and serve
only our own interests.
When you stop caring if other
people approve of you, you free
up time and energy to work
on your goals and dreams.
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The best thing we can do for
ourselves is to approve of ourselves
in every moment so that we have
confidence in our own decisions and
actions and so that we are confident
in what we are doing.
To this end, you can use
the following autosuggestion
sentences:
‘I am grateful that I fully approve
of myself and all my beliefs
are fully beneficial to me.’
‘I fully approve of myself and all
my beliefs are fully beneficial to me.’
/for autosuggestion without
showing gratitude/
Sometimes people’s indecision
to approve of themselves at any
given moment comes from dividing
everything into right and incorrect
decisions.
Once a decision is made, what is
most important is the emotional
and physical well-being of each
person and that of society as
a whole, rather than whether that
decision is right or incorrect.
In order to be decisive, self-confident,
and initiative, stop labeling your
decisions as ‘right’ or ‘incorrect’.
When you do not follow a rule that
was relevant in the past but is not
relevant now, it is imperative that
your action is good for you and
for all people.
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TO LOVE AND APPRECIATE OURSELVES
When we love and appreciate
ourselves, only then do we begin
to love and appreciate other people.
We cannot love, respect and value
other people when we do not do
the same for ourselves.
* We can only do for other people
what we have learned and can do
for ourselves.
We must approve, appreciate and
love ourselves in every moment
in order to achieve the successes
we want and to attract happy and
wonderful events into our lives.
When you love yourself, respect
yourself and are confident in
yourself, you can meet whatever
happens to you in the best way
are capable of.
* Learning to approve of yourself,
to love and appreciate yourself
in every moment is the foundation
of having a successful and
happy life.
When we appreciate and love
ourselves, only then do we meet our
own needs first, feel special, become
confident and the best role models
for our children to teach them to also
love themselves and be confident.
Only you can know exactly what
needs you have at any given time,
so you need to realize that in all
your actions you always come
first and must satisfy your needs
and desires first.
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This is the only way to lead
a happy life.
* Every person can live happily
only when they respect their own
personality first and satisfy their
own needs first and only then,
if possible, they can help other
people.
To be positive and balanced,
we must respect, love
and encourage ourselves.
When something goes wrong,
we should be most tolerant, kind
and good to ourselves.
It is a basic need of every person to
love themselves and to be loved by
other people, so at every opportunity
give affection, support and love to
people without expecting anything
in return, without expecting any
gratitude.
Only then, when we give, is it that
we begin to receive love and
support, and sometimes they can
come from the most unexpected
places and people.
At such times, we feel as
if the whole universe has gathered
to aid and back us up.
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PRAYER
To improve your way of thinking so
that you can attract happy events
with the power of your thoughts, you
can use the following autosuggestion
sentences:
‘I am grateful that I always think
and act in the way that benefits
me most.’
‘I always think and act in the way
that benefits me most.’
/for autosuggestion without
showing gratitude/.
In order to hasten the fulfillment of
these autosuggestions, you can make
a prayer from the second sentence:
‘I always think and act in the way
that benefits me most.’
for a specific period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
Write the prayer on a piece of paper
and say the prayer only once before
or after the first year has begun,
even if there is only a little but
of time left of the first year.
During the prayer period, you should
not read the prayer from the piece
of paper, not even in your mind, and
you should not make another prayer
for the same thing.
After the period of the prayer has
passed, burn the piece of paper
with the written prayer.
When you want to continue this
prayer, you can write the same
prayer again for a certain period
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for the next year, or for the next two
or three years, on a new piece
of paper.
When you do not like the prayer you
have made for a certain period and
want to interrupt it, say three or four
times the following: „I cancel the
prayer for …. and after that say what
you wanted in the prayer.“
Then you should burn the sheet
with the prayer you don’t like.
You can write the same prayer
by changing what you don’t like
about the prayer.
* To hasten the fulfillment of
the autosuggestion and the prayer
you wrote to help you for a period
of one, two or three years,
write another prayer to show your
gratitude, saying the prayer for
the same things, once a week.
The prayer in which you show your
gratitude can be to say each week
on Sunday morning or on another
day of the week and at another time.
It also can be done once a month
or several times a year, but the more
often you to say the prayer, the more
quickly you accomplish the goal you
have set in your prayer.
Sunday is the best day to say
the prayer to show your gratitude
because people are free then, but
if you are at work or have another
commitment on Sunday, you can
choose another day for it, whenever
it is convenient for you.
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Any prayer can be said just in your
head or out loud in a church, in your
home, or elsewhere, and you can
even light a candle if you want to
/the candle must be bought from
the church/.
But even without a candle the prayer
always works, you just need to say
it with affection, good feelings and
love.
Here is an example of prayer with
which you can show your gratitude:
‘Thank you, God, for your help,
as I am perfectly healthy and happy.
Thank you for helping me, as I
always think and always act in
the most beneficial way for me.
And for all things for which I thank
you, are for the good of all. Amen!’
It is imperative that you say in
the prayer: ‘for the good of all’
so that all may help you and so
that you achieve the best results.
Then your subconscious mind is
shown how to act, and it will not
be a choice between two or three
options, then only the best option
for you is presented to you at
the time you say ‘for the good of all’.
* Write your prayer to show your
gratitude on a piece of paper so that
you say it accurately every time.
To make a prayer that help you for
a certain period of time – for one,
two or three years, you can rewrite
the prayer of thanks by replacing:
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‘Thank you for you help…’ with
‘I ask for your help during
/to specify exactly for which years,
that you want this prayer to help
you / …’ In all the prayers that you
show your gratitude or ask for help,
you must use present tense, not
past tense or future tense, because
they cannot work.
All the prayers with which you want
them to help you and with which
you thank must necessarily be with
positive sentences in order to
change to a better and happier life.
When the sentences in the prayer
are not positive you will have a lot
of trouble and you will not be able
to achieve a change for the better.
When you write a prayer to ask for
help for a certain period of one, two
or three years, you can write several
different things that you want help
with, provided they are not
contradicting each other.
When you write a prayer to show
your gratitude once a week, you
can give thanks for several different
things, provided they are not
contradicting each other.
When you mention another person’s
name in the prayer, or write a prayer
for another person and they don’t
know about it, you’re going to have
a lot of trouble, you won’t even know
it is a result of that prayer.
You can mention another person’s
name in your prayer or write
a prayer for another persona, only
on the condition that this person
is aware of the prayer and want
you to write it for them.
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You may write prayers for your minor
children by saying the child’s name.
All your prayers must be said with
love and it should be from the heart.
After that you need to often think
of what you want and show your
gratitude in your prayers and
imagine it coming true.
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FAITH
I write my prayers for a certain period
of time – one, two or three years.
I say the prayer that I have written
on a piece of paper only once before
the first year begins or after the first
year of the period has begun.
Then I keep the sheet with
the written prayer until the end
of the period, without reading
the prayer, not even saying it
in my mind.
After the period specified
in the prayer passes, I burn
the piece of paper that I have
the prayer written on.
Until the period specified in
the prayer passes, I do not make
another prayer for the same thing.
And after the period has passed,
when I consider it necessary, I again
make the same prayer for the next
year, or for the next two or three
years.
* Sometimes I say the prayer
a few months before the period
of the prayer has begun.
I believe that everyone can help
themselves with a prayer, it doesn’t
matter what faith they profess or
if they are a believer, it is enough
to want to achieve their goal
and dream to come true.
Even then prayer works. The Bible
says, ‘Ask and you shall receive.’
Believing in God doesn’t mean that
He will do everything in your stead,
it means that we get the help we
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want by prayer and we take action
in alignment with prayer to get
what we want.
For me, God is a Divine energy
that is directly and equally present
everywhere in everyone
and everything.
When we ask for help with prayer,
the Divine energy makes no
judgments, no preferences, to every
plan we choose and act upon, it says
‘yes’, and helps in the best way for
each person according to their
beliefs at the time, because each
person only accepts what they
believe.
The prayer itself helps you change
some of your beliefs so that you can
achieve your goals.
Divine energy does not make
choices for us and does not help
people who have no choice, no
purpose, no plan, and take no action,
because then divine energy has
no information about what kind
of help is needed.
God helps those who have made
a choice about the goal they want
to achieve and with their prayers to
the Divine Power state exactly what
kind of help they need to achieve it.
* Everything that the Divine Power
can do, we can do.
The prayer is a source of energy,
which shows to our subconsciousness
the path to achieving our goals.
When we have made a choice of
what we want, and we have prayed
for what we want, then the Divine
power fully supports us and provides
us with a vast fund of information
and experience.
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Our faith in God and the prayers
we make contribute to a more
harmonious and independent life
and a healthier psyche.
People who believe in God and help
themselves with prayers achieve their
goals and dreams much more easily.
Our faith in God and our prayers free
us of our fears and then we perceive
much more easily all that is good for
us. The Divine energy is always ready
to fulfill all our goals and our deepest
dreams.
People love God, so when they go
on trips, they like to visit cathedrals,
churches, mosques, and temples.
Every person who has asked God
for something through prayer has
always received what they wanted.
And these requests are always
fulfilled exactly when they are
needed, at the right time and
in the right place.
A prayer can also be fulfilled after
a long time has passed when you
are not ready for what you ask for
in prayer.
Then the prayer itself helps you
to change to get ready for what
you want in the prayer so that
the prayer can be fulfilled.
When the prayer is not fulfilled,
it means that in the prayer itself
it is not clear what is wanted
or it is not in the present tense.
* All prayers must necessarily be
in the present tense. Prayers in
the past tense or future tense
cannot work.
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God does not punish or reward,
he has left that up to us. We by
our choices and actions cause
and determine this.
When a person does good, they
receive good, and vice versa,
if one does not do good,
they don’t receive good.
Any person will attract an unhappy
life if they do not take care of
themselves and their needs, and
just let themselves go with the flow,
then other people will control how
they live.
* Each person has to control their
own life by deciding what they want,
making plans, taking action to
achieve their goals, and helping
themself with autosuggestion
and prayers.
In order to feel good and to achieve
a better and happier life with ease,
it is necessary to be kind to yourself
and to people and to have your
principles in harmony with God’s
laws.
God is infinite freedom and
everyone’s soul is a piece of God.
The Divine energy manifests itself
through everyone and everything.
The Divine energy is always ready
to help so that we are so happy
we could fly.
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MENTAL INDEPENDENCE
To be mentally independent when
you have an idol who is a singer,
athlete, politician, artist, your boss,
your spouse, teacher, parent, friend,
etc., you must be fully aware that
they are no better than you.
They have accumulated knowledge
and are doing their job well, but do
not elevate them higher than yourself
in order to be mentally independent.
You can achieve anything if like them,
you also accumulate knowledge
and experience and take action.
For an idol you can choose only
yourself. For you are the most
important person in the world
for yourself.
Successful people are not smarter
nor better than you.
They are successful because, in
addition to accumulating knowledge
and doing their job well, they respect
and consider themselves special, and
with this attitude toward themselves,
they also treat other people by also
respecting and considering them
special.
Then other people show them the
same respect and support in return.
* You have to be mentally
independent to have full control over
your own life. Don’t be dependent
on the replica: ‘You owe me after
what I did for you’, no matter if you
say it to someone else
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or someone else says it to you.
In order to make you do whatever
they want, people would use
different methods such as saying:
‘You don’t love me and you don’t
understand me.’
And when you still refuse to do what
they want, they will stop using these
methods.
Don’t let other people decide
the course of your actions for you.
It’s up to you to have complete
mental independence.
To be mentally independent means
to have complete freedom to be what
you want to be and not be obligated
to do anything you don’t want to do.
Don’t let other people determine
what you do and how you live.
You need to be firm and say ‘No’
to people who demand such
things of you.
Only then do you have complete
freedom to act for what you want
and change yourself to have a better
and happier life.
People who can’t say ‘No’
are more concerned with other
people’s desires than their own.
They don’t respect their own person
as by not taking care of themselves
first and trying to guess how to take
care of other people’s desires
and this makes them dependent
on others.
No one respects people who are
dependent on others, not even
those who use such people for their
own gain.
Everyone admires the independent
person who is not influenced by
other people’s opinions and stands
up for their principles.
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Be firm and clear, say ‘No’ when you
don’t want something, and ‘Yes’
when you do.
This makes your life and the lives
of those around you easier and
people respect you for your sincerity.
* Being able to say ‘No’ firmly is an
indication that you are confident in
yourself, you stand by your principles
and can look after your own needs.
The mentally independent person
does not need the approval of other
people and does not allow others
to choose for them how to live and
what relationships to have, and
therefore feels an inner security
that depends only on them.
When you are mentally independent
and you choose what to do and
what relationships to have, a sense
of security and confidence builds up
within you.
*The only lasting security is your
inner security, which means that you
believe you can handle any challenge
in your life.
Traditions and rules are not always
relevant to changed circumstances.
You can only disregard traditions
and rules, provided it is good
for you and for all people.
Rules and laws are absolutely
necessary, to protect people
from criminal acts.
It is much better to have inadequate
laws and rules, which are temporary
than to have no laws and no rules
at all.
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Take care of yourselves first. Leave
the people around you to fend for
themselves.
Don’t give to get something in
return, because in doing so you
become dependent and when you
get nothing or you don’t get what
you expect, then you will feel
unsatisfied and underappreciated.
In order to be able to give anything
from the kindness of your heart,
without expecting anything in return,
you must first satisfy your own needs
and only then you can give joy to
others and thus be mentally
independent.
When your children come of age,
let them fly the family nest to make
their own family and do not try to
live through them so that you can
be mentally independent.
In order to be mentally independent,
you can say the following
autosuggestion sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am completely
fearless, completely approve of
myself and all my beliefs are fully
beneficial to me.’
Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I am completely fearless, completely
approve of myself and all my beliefs
are fully beneficial to me.’
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
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The progress in the world depends
on people who are mentally
independent and not interested
in other people’s approval.
It is such people who discover
new technologies and new ways
of production and services, thereby
driving progress throughout
the world towards a better life.
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RESPONSIBILITY
You are the only one who bears full
responsibility for your own habits
and character, for your beliefs and
for everything that is going on
in your life.
You are the one who bears
the responsibility for your mindset
and for your actions, which attract
respectively occurrences in your life.
No one can influence your life
unless you allow it.
Don’t even for a moment consider
that something or someone else
has anything to do with the events
in your life.
Whatever is happening to you, is
because you have invited it, you
have consented to it and allowed it.
To tango, it takes both of you to
agree. You are the only one fully
responsible for your life, whether
you want it or not.
People who fail are always looking
for someone to take the blame for
what happened, to pass them the
responsibility. They think that other
people, or institutions, the state, etc.
should be responsible for their lives.
Such people look for excuses not to
change, as it would mean they need
to learn how to take responsibility
for their lives.
Еven something they had wished
for changes, it would not change
their mindset, and there will always
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be something in their way,
interfering with their success and
in the way of leading a happy life.
* In order to change quickly and
easily for a better and happier
life, you must always take full
responsibility for everything that
happens to you, your mindset, your
beliefs, your habits, your character,
and your entire life.
Humbly take responsibility for
everything in your life.
When part of a group, take
responsibility only for your share.
You are also responsible for your
minor children and when you do
not follow generally accepted rules.
For example, when you cross
a street with a lot of traffic, then
you are responsible for the other
people who are driving / walking
on that street when you cross.
You are also responsible for
co-workers and neighbors if you
have commonly agreed upon
rules that you have also voted
for and accepted.
You are fully responsible for all that
you do and for all that you have
failed to do when it was necessary
for the good of yourself and others.
You are fully responsible even if you
are not acquainted with the laws of
nature, society and psychology.
No one can take upon your
responsibility, nor can you take
upon another person’s responsibility.
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Everyone needs to bear
the consequences of their
own irresponsibility.
* Only when we take full
responsibility for our every action
or inaction, only then do we become
self confident and achieve our goals
and dreams more easily.
And the more responsibilities
we accept and carry, the more
people trust us.
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KINDNESS
There is something beautiful and
good in everyone. We all show care
for other people by sharing,
supporting, and showing
understanding because our caring
for other people is something every
person has by birth.
There is innate kindness in every
person and the more we realize and
believe that we are good, the more
we approve of ourselves, the more
self-confident we become, hence
this helps us to achieve our goals
and dreams with ease.
Believe in your own kindness
and that of other people.
When we are good to ourselves,
we are good to other people and
the more kindness and courage
we give, the more kindness and
courage we receive and the more
secure we become.
* All of the success we have is due
to our kindness.
When you do not rejoice for other
people’s success, you will stop the
flow of grace to you because no one
will rejoice when you succeed either.
What you think about other people
comes back to you.
Even if you disrespect another
person in a conversation, it will
come back to you.
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Whatever you do for to others will
come back to you as a boomerang
with a greater force.
Everyone gets what they deserve.
* The natural law of increasing
returns /what you do and give
increases and comes back to you/
gives you everything you deserve.
In order to have a happy life it’s not
enough just to develop a great
charity and follow the God’s ten
Commandments.
You must be kind to yourself and to
people and uphold your principles.
When you decide that you are going
to steal something, even if it is only
a pen, you must be aware that you
will then lose something of much
greater value and often it is in
a completely different area of your
life – work, love, health, money,
property, your own beauty, good
relationships with colleagues,
neighbors, relatives or friends, etc.
Do not confuse courtesy with
kindness. These are two very different
things. It is not possible to be polite
and courteous all the time.
You gain much more when you are
open and honest with yourself and
other people.
In order to increase the kindness
in yourself, you can say the following
autosuggestion sentence daily –
morning and evening several times
in less than 3 minutes:
‘I am grateful that I am completely
noble, completely wise, completely
generous, completely initiative and
I completely approve of myself. ‘
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Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I am utterly noble, utterly wise,
utterly generous, utterly initiative
and I fully approve of myself.’
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and
to specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
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THE POWER IS WITHIN US
The power to have a happy life
is within us.
Our assets are our energy and time.
Making good choices about where
and how to invest our energy and
time is the foundation of a happy life.
There is no external power that can
make us happy. When a person or
event makes us happy, it is because
we have developed mindsets, habits
and beliefs that attract happiness.
* The power is within us
and it is greater than any
other external power.
We create our own lives with our
thoughts, beliefs and actions.
We possess the creative energy
that creates our life.
Our own power has unlimited
possibilities.
Our power increases when we
approve of, respect and love
ourselves, thereby becoming
confident in our decisions
and actions.
When we approve of and love
ourselves, only then do we believe
we can handle any challenges that
we face as we live.
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There are no limitations to the power
within you, except those that you
believe in, whereby you will limit
yourself.
Analyze how you attracted the events
that are not good for you in order
to change your beliefs and way of
thinking to avoid this in the future.
* Even the smallest change
in ourselves changes the way
people treat us and changes
the circumstances in which we live.
When our behavior changes and
we become noble and honest, then
the attitude of the people around us
also changes and they begin to treat
us with respect and trust us.
When we change, the old things that
we used to attract disappear and
we begin to attract new things into
our lives that are determined by
the change we make and thus
we change the circumstances
in which we live.
* Our power is in the present
moment because what we choose
and do NOW determines our future.
We must act in the present with love
and confidence to achieve our goals
and dreams.
To feel confident in our own power,
we need to love ourselves, approve
of ourselves, value ourselves, respect
ourselves, feel special, and support
ourselves by rewarding ourselves
for every success we achieve.
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To increase the power within
you can do autosuggestion
with the following sentence:
‘I am grateful that I fully approve
of myself, fully love myself, and am
always fully confident in myself.’
Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I fully approve of myself, fully love
myself, and am always fully confident
in myself.’ to help yourself for
a certain period of one, two
or three years, and to specify
exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
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TODAY AND NOW
Life should be lived now, don’t put it
off for tomorrow, because tomorrow
is determined by what you do today.
When you often postpone for
tomorrow, it means that you idealize
the future.
If one event does not fulfill
your expectations and you start
looking forward to another event
in the future to live happily, such
as marriage, completing your
education, getting a good job, or
something else, and you are not
living your life in the present.
Don’t let this become your way
of life. Stop procrastinating, because
you will be wasting your life
dreaming about the future.
* In order to lead a happy life, you
must take action today and now.
Don’t allow yourself to procrastinate
doing something that gives you
pleasure now.
Enjoy every moment in the present
and stop thinking that this moment
is supposed to be in the future.
In order to live happily in the present,
we need to approve of ourselves and
be initiative, respect each other, and
love each other. Only then can we
feel secure, confident and happy.
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In order to stop procrastinating,
you can use the following
autosuggestion sentences:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
initiative and all my beliefs are
always fully beneficial to me.’
‘I am grateful that I live only
in the present, which is always
filled with joy, affection, support
and love.’
Write a prayer with the both
sentences to help yourself for
a certain period of one, two
or three years, and to specify
exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with the both
sentences to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
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FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND IMAGINATION
Feelings are controlled indirectly
because they are always directly
subject to the thoughts
and actions we choose.
Feelings follow our thoughts, and
anyone can choose what to think
and how to act.
Only we have the full power to allow,
withhold and change our thoughts,
and thus we also choose what
feelings to feel and how to express
them through our actions.
This is a conscious choice and
is within our control by choosing
our thoughts and actions.
* By choosing what to think and
how to act, we also choose which
feelings dominate us.
Any substance, any energy can
manifest in completely opposite
directions /the law that for every
action there is an opposite reaction/.
All feelings can also manifest as both
negative and positive, depending
on where our thoughts direct them.
We have to be responsible for what
and how we express our feelings
brought about by our thoughts
and actions.
There are theories that teach you
to rise above your feelings and
that the soul is calm and passive.
Do not believe such theories.
The soul is a powerful fountain
of energy, creativity and action
through our ever-changing
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feelings and through our emotional
human nature.
Emotions and imagination are
encoded in us through our beliefs.
To change your emotions and what
you often imagine, you must change
your beliefs.
* When you change your beliefs,
you change the emotions and
imagination that prevail in you.
Emotions and imagination are
mental states. Emotional attachment
is very strong.
Experiences that are associated
with strong emotions and strong
imagination remain in your memory
for a long time.
Emotions and imagination
can be concentrated energy.
When you feel unpleasant emotions
toward someone in your
environment, and you suppress
those emotions, and when they
get accumulate, they seek
a way out, a manifestation.
From their sudden manifestation,
you may react in a very unexpected
and unbalanced way.
And then you will be at the mercy of
this accumulated energy of emotions,
which will guide your actions at that
moment.
Each person can control their
feelings, emotions, and imagination
to live happily.
* We can control our feelings
by the choice of our thoughts
and actions.
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* We can control our emotions and
imagination by changing our beliefs.
Use your imagination by frequently
visualizing pictures of everything
you want to achieve in your life.
This helps you achieve what you
want more quickly, it is another
method for autosuggestion.
Be careful what you say about
yourself and what pictures you
constantly paint in your imagination,
for this will be manifested as a result
of the autosuggestion.
Imagine events that you would want
to happen to you and repeat events
in conversation, when you would like
them to happen to you.
Allow your feelings, emotions, and
imagination to express themselves
freely and see where they lead you
in order to take action and change
them through your mindset and
your beliefs when it is necessary
to have a better and happier life.
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LOVE
The more affection and love we feel
for ourselves and other people,
the healthier, more radiant, more
successful, more confident,
the happier we are, and
we attract the best in our lives as
well as a good romantic relationship
with another person.
When you approve of, respect, and
love yourself, only then do you
attract a romantic relationship with
a person who also approves of,
respects,
and loves themselves, and then
the relationship is healthy and
harmonious.
When you don’t approve of, respect
and love yourself, then you will
attract a person who does the same,
and they won’t approve, respect and
love you, because
they are taught to have such
relationships, and so are you, as this
is the only kind of relationship both
of you can attract.
Our relationships are like a mirror
that reflects the way we treat
ourselves.
Movies and fairy tales feed
the illusion that when you fall in love
with someone, they will make your
life happy and everything will be fine.
But this does not even come close
to the reality and emotional
relationships.
Everyone lives the life they deserve
according to their own level of
awareness.
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Good relationships don’t mean
constant intimacy and constant
sharing, because then
the relationship would be exhausting.
A harmonious relationship consists
of respect, trust, kindness, and
the freedom for each person to
make their own choices.
Having a good relationship does
not only mean that your partner
supports you, but also that they
sober you up when needed.
A fulfilling and healthy romantic
relationship allows you to get
to know each other as you are
and always support each other
when needed.
A wonderful romantic relationship
with another person consists of
friendship, trust, respect, passion
and romance.
Then love becomes the most
wonderful and greatest experience
with an explosion of feelings that
make us fly and be kind to everyone
and everything.
When you enter into a romantic
relationship with another person,
you must be aware that you cannot
force your partner to change just
like you cannot be sure that your
partner will not change themselves.
No one can change another person
and no one can predict what and
when their partner might decide to
change something about themselves.
No one can change you, nor can you
change another person. Each person
can only control their own change.
You can only change yourself.
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Your change is entirely within your
control and you choose what and
how to change something in yourself.
You may decide to break off your
intimate relationship because
your partner is not providing you
with confidence and security.
And your next relationships will be
like that because whatever you do,
you bring with you that mindset,
that way of expressing your feelings
that you have right now at this very
moment.
And you have not realized that
only you can provide yourself with
confidence and security by choosing
to make the appropriate change.
When you give affection, love,
support and peace of mind to those
around you, it is absolutely
imperative that you demand that
they reciprocate with the same.
When you don’t receive the same,
stop seeing these people, and break
off the relationship, whether it’s
a personal or professional
relationship.
There is no boundless adoration.
Stop looking for the prince on
a white horse.
There are many people around you
with whom you can experience
a fulfilling romantic relationship.
There are many people with whom
you are compatible and with whom
you can have a good relationship of
course, when you yourself also have
the qualities for such a relationship.
* For a romantic relationship, you
only attract people whom you are
similar to and who have the same
level of awareness as you.
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To have a good romantic relationship
with another person, you must
be able to take very good care
of yourself.
To be able to take very good care
of yourself you must be confident,
wise, initiative, noble, delicate,
generous, feel special and approve
of yourself in every moment.
You can think of autosuggestion
sentences with some of these
qualities that you feel you need
to build up as habits in your
character in order to attract a good
partner and hence to have a good
romantic relationship
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GOOD CHARACTER AND PRINCIPLES
To attract a good partner and have
a good romantic relationship with
them and to live happily, you need
to have good character and stand
up for your principles.
To have a good character and
to be able to stand up for your
principles you need:
First: You must keep your promises,
even when it is no longer convenient
for you. Only then do people begin
to respect you and rely on you.
When you do not keep your
promises, well, you can imagine,
how people would treat you.
Second: Always uphold the moral
standards, even when everyone
around you does not.
When you respect the moral
standards, it means you respect
yourself and you respect
the people around you.
Third: When something unpleasant
happens to you, don’t look for
another person to be responsible
for what happened.
Whatever happens to you, you have
caused it by your thoughts and
actions, and you are fully responsible,
so don’t look for another person or
other people to be responsible
for what happens to you.
Fourth: You must keep track of what
thoughts roam in your mind and
immediately replace thoughts that
do not contribute to a happy life
with their positive
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opposite, which attracts success
and a happy life. For this purpose,
you can say daily the following
autosuggestion sentences, morning
and evening several times in less
than three minutes:
‘I am grateful that I always think
and act in the most beneficial way
for me.’
‘I always think and act in the most
beneficial way for me.’
/for autosuggestion without
showing gratitude/.
You can repeat both sentences
for at least a year- morning and
evening several times in less than
three minutes. Write a prayer
with the sentence:
‘I always think and act in the most
beneficial way for me.’
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
Fifth: Be honest with yourself and
others. When you are honest with
yourself, you feel good and achieve
your goals more easily.
When you are honest with other,
only then do they respect and
trust you.
Sixth: Every month do charity work
or donate by giving some of your
money or time or both, according
to your ability, to help an
organization, school, retirement club,
temple of God, sports club, certain
people, a certain project, cultural
institutions, or other of your choice.
When I make a donation, I consider
it my gratitude for the good
and wonderful things and events
in my life.
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Seventh: Nurture in yourself nobility
and compassion for yourself and
others.
Put yourself in other people’s shoes
to understand their point of view
so you can empathize with them.
For this purpose, you can say daily
the following autosuggestion
sentences – morning and evening
several times in less than three
minutes:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
noble, utterly wise, utterly generous,
and I fully approve of myself which
makes me feel utterly happy.’
‘I am utterly noble, utterly wise,
utterly generous, and I fully approve
of myself which makes me feel
utterly happy.’ /for autosuggestion
without showing gratitude/.
Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I am utterly noble, utterly wise,
utterly generous, and I fully approve
of myself which makes me feel utterly
happy.’ to help yourself for a certain
period of one, two or three years,
and to specify exactly for which
years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
Eighth: You must stand by your
principles. Only in this way can you
secure the peace of mind and
independence that are needed
for a better and happier life.
Ninth: Always be initiative to achieve
what you want faster. Being initiative
means taking action on your own
without someone else telling you to.
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When we are initiative, we become
much more confident and achieve
what we want much faster.
Ten: Be tolerant by respecting
opinions and beliefs that are
different from your own.
Only then can you see the diversity
in the world and find new ideas
that can help you lead a better life.
Eleventh: Build beliefs that make
you happy. Beliefs define the way
you think and the way you live.
For this purpose, you can say daily
the following autosuggestion
sentences – morning and evening
several times in less than three
minutes:
‘I am grateful that all my beliefs
are always fully beneficial to me.’
‘All my beliefs are always fully
beneficial to me.’
/for autosuggestion without
showing gratitude/.
You can repeat both sentences
for at least a year.
Twelfth: Always feel special and
have high self esteem. This is
necessary to be confident in
yourself and to succeed in your
endeavors.
For this purpose, you can say daily
the following autosuggestion
sentences – morning and evening
several times in less than three
minutes:
‘I am grateful that I always feel
absolutely special and always
have the highest self esteem.
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‘I always feel absolutely special
and always have the highest
self esteem.’ /for autosuggestion
without showing gratitude/.
Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I always feel absolutely special and
always have the highest self esteem.’
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to say your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
Only in this way can we have good
a character and stand up for our
principles, thus becoming more
confident and having complete trust
in our own decisions and actions.
Your hopes and wishes do not show
your character. Only your thoughts
and actions show your character your
principles and your value system.
When a person has good character
and upholds their principles, only
then do they attract success, good
health, financial independence,
balance, lasting friendships and
happy events in their life.
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PURPOSE AND PLAN
Hard work and honesty alone cannot
ensure a happy life.
For a happy life, besides hard work
and honesty, it is also necessary
for everyone to choose their own
goals and make a plan with clearly
arranged tasks to achieve each goal.
If you wait for someone else to
choose your goals, you will always
be dissatisfied with your life because
people are
busy accomplishing their own goals
and may not know which goals
are best suited for another person
since each person is unique,
and incomparable.
To be happy, you have to find
the meaning of your life on
your own.
The meaning of life is knowing what
makes you feel happy and what you
want to achieve in your life.
For this purpose, you need to
accumulate knowledge and
explore different goals to find
the most suitable ones for you.
The meaning of life has to be
found by each person themselves,
it cannot be read in a book or
through psychotherapy.
Other people can only help you see
different goals, but the choice
of what you want to achieve in
your life and what makes you happy,
is something that only you can
discover.
When you find the meaning of your
life, then you feel whole and can see
yourself in your true light.
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Each person must decide for himself
what he wants to achieve in his life,
make plans and take action
to achieve their goals and dreams.
You need to realize the things that
are important to you and prioritize
your choices in order to create
a plan of action.
Pinpoint the goals you want
to achieve. For example, to be
the boss or to be confident.
It is pointless to be a boss without
having confidence, even people
around you will not accept you
as a boss.
When you are confident, then you
can be more than just a boss, then
you can be anything you wish.
Set a goal, which you are happy
with and once you achieve it, set
a new goal.
Make plans that are realistic and
don’t stretch yourself beyond your
own skills and abilities, so that you
can achieve whatever you set out
to do.
Make a plan using the philosophical
thinking: looking at each detail from
several angles and from all possible
different perspectives to crystallize
in your mind the best course of
action for that specific step or detail.
Separate facts from hearsay and
divide facts into important and
unimportant to make the best plan
of action you are capable of
at the moment.
Constantly gain new knowledge
and new skills to find more
opportunities to accomplish
your goals and dreams.
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This is the only way to improve your
life and join the club of successful
people.
Every successful person has always
had a plan on how to go about
achieving their goal.
When you have a plan for your
goal and you act, you gain qualities
such as confidence, motivation,
enthusiasm, self-discipline and
concentrations.
All of these qualities are necessary
to achieve your goals and dreams.
* The mind attracts everything we
think about.
Focus your thoughts on your action
plan to attract the opportunities
that are necessary for the goal you
want to achieve.
* Opportunities exist always and
everywhere.
Every year many people accumulate
new wealth, whether the world
economy is in decline or booming.
These people succeed because they
are mentally independent, they are
not influenced by other people’s
opinions, they are confident, they
gain new knowledge, and they
work hard.
In this way, they prepare themselves
for opportunities and when they
encounter them, they seize them.
Some people think that these people
have simply had the chance or it was
pure luck.
But for this chance and luck, they
have worked hard, thereby gaining
knowledge and experience to be
able to seize these opportunities
when they arise.
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People who do not have
the knowledge and experience
to seize an opportunity, even if they
notice it, cannot take advantage of it.
For example, if there was a vacancy
for a well-paid job in a symphony
orchestra for a musician who plays
the violin, the only musicians who
can play the violin would apply for
this opportunity.
Nothing has ever been accomplished
without a plan for each goal.
Nothing is accomplished by wishing
and hoping alone.
Things can’t fix themselves, so you
have to make a plan for each goal
and take action to achieve
the success you want.
Any decision is better than indecision,
even when a decision turns out to be
a failure, because you can learn from
your failures.
After each failure, you gain
experience and become better
and more confident in what you
are doing.
You need to look at the failure
as a teacher that shows you what
to change in your plan and where
the path to success that you want
to achieve is.
- When you fail, you need to stand
back up, evaluate what to change
in your plan, and keep going.
When you have a goal and a plan
and you act, you form a psychic
force that projects outward from
you to determine your future
in which you achieve your goal.
Every person feels unique and
confident in themselves when they
have their own path, which they have
chosen and acted upon. In this way,
we grow and change towards
a better and happier life.
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TEAM
To accelerate the achievement
of your goal you can form a team.
When you are part of a team, you
become more confident in yourself,
you gain more courage and security,
and benefit from all the experience
and knowledge of each team
member.
You need to select each team
member very carefully.
Team members should have
knowledge about the goal you
want to achieve, have a positive
nature, and like working with
other people so they can work
well as a team.
Make sure that each member
in the team is doing their job
and understands its importance
in achieving the goal.
Keep track of every change
in the attitude of the team
members with regards to
the goal you are working towards.
You must anticipate the needs
of each team member and meet
them before they become aware
of them.
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The more generosity, kindness,
and love you give to each member
of the team, the more help and
support you receive.
Make a schedule for meetings.
This will create an environment for
new ideas for greater effectiveness.
Treat your team to spend a weekend
at a beautiful place, paying for
everything to be free for every
team member.
This way, you are providing a nice
interaction for the team members
outside the workplace, which is very
valuable as it recharges them with
positive energy.
Make a schedule for such outings
during the weekends each year.
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PASSIVE OR NEW ACTION
People who are passive are not
willing to take risks, which is why
they do not achieve success.
To be happy you need to strive
to accept new and different ideas
into your life. Meet new people
more often.
Do something different and out
of the ordinary that you want and
is good for you and for all people.
Success is achieved by people
who take risks.
Only when we take risks and explore
the unknown do we have growth
and when we start down a new
path, we change our lives too.
The choice is up to you, the known
or the unknown, the passive or
the new action that brings you
joy and success.
There is no such thing as destiny
and fate, only passive people believe
in them as an excuse not to take
action to have a better and
happier life.
People who do not have a purpose
and a plan, run away from risk and
responsibility, are inactive, are open
to all external influences and
will easily fall under the control
of other people who will determine
how they will lead their lives.
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There is no empty space in nature
and it operates constantly with
immutable laws.
Only when we take risks and
experiment can we learn the laws
of nature in order to apply them
to lead an easier, better and
happier life.
Seek new opportunities. Take risks by
exploring new and unfamiliar things.
The development of each person
and the entire society lies
in the unknown.
New exciting activities for
development and growth bring joy
in our lives.
* You have to get out of the passive
zone and enter into unknown
and different worlds to find new
opportunities for a better and
happier life.
For this purpose, you can do
autosuggestion with the following
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
initiative, utterly generous and
utterly wise, which makes me
feel utterly happy.’
Everything changes and this is
inevitable and it depends on us
whether we accept change as
something real and in every
new change we look for new
opportunities to improve our lives.
Seeking this change and taking
action for it, for a better and happier
life helps people live their lives
to the fullest.
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Only when we take a risk and step
into the unknown, only then is
an abundance of magnificent
possibilities revealed to us, and only
then do we feel that life is exciting
and wonderful.
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PREDICTIONS
You must not let anyone or anything
affect your self-esteem and your
confidence. Do not believe all
predictions.
I remember in an interview they said
that they would remove Schengen
visas in about ten years’ time.
And after just a few months, they
removed them.
All types of predictions such as
horoscopes, palmistry coffee
reading, tarot, and others only show
the direction you are aiming for with
your thoughts and actions at
the moment and it is not certain that
this will happen.
Any prediction can be immediately
interrupted with just one prayer
asking for positive things that
change the prediction or by thinking
hard and changing your actions
in another direction.
You can do both when you feel
it would work out better for you.
* With predictions, you can only
get a sense of what direction your
thoughts and actions are moving
in right now, which also determines
the circumstances around you at
the present moment.
To control the direction of your
thoughts and actions in the present
moment and to be shown the path
that is best for you in the present
and in the future, you need to
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ask yourself the following
question each and every day
(if possible):
‘What should I realize and what
should I do in order to live
completely happily now and
in the future and to have
my life completely wonderful
now and in the future?’
You must say: ‘and to have my life
completely wonderful now and
in the future’, to dream for the best
in your life on a grand scale.
When I started asking myself this
question, I became much more
quickly aware of how to act to live
happily in the present and some
petty beliefs and habits that were not
good for me were quickly eradicated.
Once you ask yourself this question
out loud /you can do it in your mind
as well/, the answer can come
to you immediately and your
subconsciousness can tell you what
actions to take to live happily.
The answer may come today or
tomorrow or in two or three days
and quite often it goes unnoticed
and then you suddenly realize what
you have to do.
The Bible says: ‘Ask and it shall
be answered.’ You may also ask
yourself the following questions:
‘What should I realize and what
should I do to be completely
healthy now and in the future?’
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‘How can I heal my eyes in the most
beneficial way for me?’
Or any other organ of your body.
‘What should I realize and
do to have the best job for
me now and in the future?’
‘What to realize and what to do
to have a romantic relationship
now and in the future with
the right person for me?’
‘What should I realize and what
should I do to always have an
abundance of my own money
enough for everything I need
and wish for, that makes me feel
utterly happy?’
You can ask yourself these questions
at any time that you deem
convenient for you – morning, day,
and evening. You need to realize that
you need privacy.
Allow yourself time each day
to dream, ask yourself questions,
and make plans to fulfill your goals
and dreams.
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HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
On one of the excursion I organized,
I was the tour guide and, on the way
back the bus broke down.
In these situations, there are three
kinds of people: most people are
passive, there are people who are
dissatisfied and there are people
who do whatever they can to help.
The people who help in such
moments are the most noble,
because they are sympathetic
and wise enough to know that
such a thing can happen in their
workplace, too.
Such people enjoy life no matter
the circumstances, that’s why
they are successful and happy.
Happy and successful people feel
good no matter what happens.
They have the ability to derive
pleasure in every moment and
are always happy when they can
be of service.
For them every day is a pleasure and
they appreciate all the good things
that come their way in the current
moment.
Happy and successful people show
creativity in every moment. They are
busy living and don’t notice what
people around them are doing.
They embrace life with enthusiasm
and are completely confident in all
of their endeavors.
Happy and successful people don’t
feel the need to be loved by all
people and know that there will
always be someone who disapproves
of them. It is much more
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important for them to appreciate,
and love, and approve of themselves.
Happy and successful people are
courageous, initiative and very
inquisitive.
They are always seeking ways to gain
more knowledge and are willing
to learn until their dying breath.
Happy and successful people have
a good sense of humor that helps
them relax, they smile easily, and
have a positive mental attitude,
and love to laugh together with
other people.
Happy and successful people take
care of their body and mind and
love to be entertained with trips,
vacations, hobbies, concerts, dancing,
sports, reading, nature walks, etc.
Happy and successful people have
a clear main goal, manage their time
and money wisely, take risks and
responsibility, learn from failures
and control their habits.
They believe in their success, prepare
for it by making plans, and often
form a team to help in achieving
their goal.
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THE CHILD WITHIN
Each one of us has a child within.
The child in us exists through
the emotions we experienced
in the past when we were young
under the age of five.
There are times when we don’t feel
so good for no apparent reason.
In those moments, the child in us
wants attention, so tell them out
loud or in your mind that you love
them and you can buy cotton candy,
or ice cream, or chocolate, or a ride
on a roller coaster or something else
that children do.
If you don’t respect and love
the child within you, when you
least expect it, you will behave
in a very erratic way and not be
able to control your emotions.
Love the child within you so that you
can be harmonious, playful, exciting,
and charismatic through your
emotions.
The only thing the child in us wants
is to be loved and be told often
so that they feel loved, protected
and secure.
This brings balance and harmony
to everyone’s life.
* The more often we tell the child
within us that we love them,
the better we feel.
Psychotherapists are familiar with
the impact of emotions built up
in the past when you were under
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the age of five. Therefore, they pay
great attention to the child within
us, which is a prerequisite for
a healthy psyche, to be balanced and
to be able to control our emotions.
* Only when we love the child within
us, only then, can we be balanced
and control our emotions.
Learn to love and respect both
yourself and the child within you.
Refer to the child in you by your
name just as you were referred
to when you were under the age
of five.
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FRIENDS AND SOCIAL RELATIONS
Allow family and friends to support
you by asking them for help to
achieve your goal more easily.
Life with friends is joyful, it increases
security and self-confidence. Respect
your friends’ differences and accept
them for who they are.
A friend is a person who listens
attentively and advises you when you
need it and knows exactly when and
what to say to sober or cheer you up.
One of the great pleasures of people
is getting together with family
and friends at home, on a picnic
or in a restaurant to see each other,
share or celebrate a special day.
Make time for your loved ones and
friends to socialize and have fun
together with them knowing that
this time is one of the most valuable
things in your life because it
energizes you positively and makes
you feel part of the community.
* Contact with friends gives you
strength, security, courage and
joy in everyday life.
Give gifts with and without occasion,
without expecting to receive
anything in return and without
expecting thanks, so that people
around you love and support you.
You should be grateful for any
constructive criticism that can
help you better realize your goal.
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In order to have self-confidence,
and to attract friends and good
social contacts, you must maintain
your appearance.
You need to smell clean and fresh.
Maintain a stylish haircut, beautiful
manicure and white teeth.
Wear elegant clothes and beautiful
jewellery that make you attractive.
Move confidently, smoothly and
with a tall erect posture.
For this purpose, you can make
autosuggestion with the following
sentences:
‘I am grateful that I am perfectly
healthy, beautiful, and always move
with confidence and stand tall.’
You can write two prayers with this
sentence: ‘I am perfectly healthy,
beautiful, and always move with
confidence and stand tall,
and this makes me happy.’
The first prayer is to help you for
a certain period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
And the second prayer is to show
your gratitude saying the prayer
once a week, so that you can get
results quicker.
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BALANCE
Every person has their own balance,
which is determined by how much
they take and how much they give.
When the balance is negative, it
means that this person takes more
than they give, and that means
they will be in trouble, because
the laws of nature and society will
take from them, whether they want
to or not, to pay for the excess that
they had taken.
When the balance is on the plus side,
it means that this person is giving
more than they are taking, and thus
they have opportunities to get what
they want in order to live happily.
Everyone’s balance increases when
they are grateful, polite, helpful, kind,
when they give affection, love and
support to people, donate /when
the donation is anonymous let them
know it is a donation/.
Any prayer to show your gratitude
also increases the balance.
Any action that radiates kindness,
support and compassion for people
and nature also increases balance.
Everyone’s balance is determined
by the constant flow of taking and
giving.
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When you ask and receive, your
balance will go towards the negative.
When you give and show gratitude,
your balance will go towards
the positive.
It is not good to only give or only
take or to give little, or to take little.
When you only give and don’t take,
you don’t respect and honor yourself,
and then people won’t respect and
honor you either and will use you
and keep taking from you.
Someone may give you something
in return, but it will be little or not
what you want.
* The best balance for any person is
when they give a lot and take a lot,
always giving more than taking, so
that they have opportunities to get
what they want to lead a happy life.
To live happily you must maintain
a positive balance. To maintain
a positive balance, you can make
a self suggestion with the following
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
generous, utterly initiative, utterly
wise and utterly noble, which
makes me feel utterly happy.’
You can write two prayers with
this sentence: ‘I am utterly generous,
utterly initiative, utterly wise and
utterly noble, which makes me feel
utterly happy.
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The first prayer is to help you for
a certain period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
And the second prayer is to show
your gratitude saying the prayer
once a week, so that you can get
results quicker.
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FEARLESS AND BALANCED
There are two things that everyone
will fail at – fear and ego. Everyone
will be afraid when they lack
confidence.
In order to believe in yourself
and to gain courage you can
do autosuggestion with
the following sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am completely
fearless and completely confident
and always have complete trust in
myself.’
* This autosuggestion also helps
to maintain a healthy psyche.
You can write two prayers with this
sentence: ‘I am completely fearless
and completely confident and always
have complete trust in myself, which
makes me feel utterly happy.’
The first prayer is to help you for
a certain period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
And the second prayer is to show
your gratitude saying the prayer
once a week, so that you can get
results quicker.
The ego must be controlled and
guarded like a precious stone.
Ego control should be aimed
at not controlling other people’s
lives and not letting other
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people control your life. Protect your
ego by not allowing anyone you
meet who will burden you with
other people’s problems.
Don’t divulge your cherished dreams
to anyone until you achieve them.
Keep objects that remind you of
your successes and the good times
in your life.
Give yourself gifts that make you
happy. This is a way to support your
ego as it needs self-confidence and
proof that you are successful, happy
and loved.
When the ego is out of control,
it manifests itself in two ways:
One is when a person needs
to show off and demonstrate.
Such people think of themselves
as the center of the world and try
to control other people’s lives.
You cannot be the center of anything
but yourself, just as other people can
only be the center of themselves.
The second is when a person does
not respect themself, then they
cannot stand up for their principles
and then other people will control
how they live.
* The ego can be controlled
by the way we think and act.
When you control your way
of thinking and your actions,
then you also control your ego.
When the ego is controlled, then
a person is balanced, poised, calm,
self confident, loves themself,
respects themself, always encourages
themself and rewards themself as
much as they can for every success.
To gain a better control over your
ego, you can autosuggestion with
the following sentence:
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‘I am grateful that I am completely
poised, and completely confident
in myself and all my beliefs are fully
beneficial to me, which makes me
feel utterly happy.’
You can write two prayers with this
sentence: ‘I am completely poised,
and completely confident in myself
and all my beliefs are fully beneficial
to me, which makes me feel utterly
happy.’
The first prayer is to help you for
a certain period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
And the second prayer is to show
your gratitude by saying the prayer
once a week so you can achieve
results faster.
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MY CHANGE
After a while I became convinced
that prayer is the most powerful
energy which can help you achieve
anything.
The prayer is an energy with limitless
possibilities. I started writing prayers
for the same things I was doing
autosuggestion.
Then I took a quantum leap
and accelerated the change
of my mindset, my habits
and my whole life.
I didn’t change sooner because
I wasn’t ready for it then. I had
to go through all this in my life
to become who I am now.
For me, my past consists of lessons
that I learn from and I know that
my future is determined by what
I do in the present.
I seek out my friends when I need
advice and then, according to my
principles, decide what is best for
me and only then do I take action.
I give my forgiveness easily, and
it makes me feel completely free.
I am convinced that when I satisfy
my own needs and desires first and
put myself first, only then I can give
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others with pleasure without
expecting anything in return
and then I feel completely free
and completely independent.
I realized that everything that
happens in my life depends on
my mindset, on my beliefs and
on my actions, which I direct
in the direction I want through
autosuggestion and prayers.
What I create in my life is a mirror
of my thoughts and beliefs.
I love to compliment and always
find something to lift people’s
spirits and self-esteem.
It gives me pleasure to give without
expecting anything in return.
When I give something, I look
the person straight in the eye
to savor their joy at receiving a gift.
When I receive a gift, I am glad
for the gift and for the respect and
kindness shown to me by the person
who is giving me the gift.
For all that I have achieved in my
life, I have paid a very high price
by devoting a lot of time, a lot
of energy, and a lot of hard work.
I am happy because I work every day
for this happiness. It has become
a habit of mine, like washing my
face every morning and evening.
*Self suggestion and prayers help me
to have faith in myself and show me
the way to succeed in my endeavors.
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I adapt easily to any change that is
good for me. I appreciate prosperity
in my life and fully enjoy it.
I am grateful for every good thing
in my life, even the smallest ones.
I enjoy and respect other people’s
successes and accomplishments
that contribute to a better life for
themselves and the other people.
One thing is certain, everything
changes and I change by controlling
the direction of my change.
I exercise my control every day,
thereby creating the life I want.
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HOLISTIC HEALTH
Psychotherapists pay great attention
to holistic health. The word holistic
in translation means – whole,
comprehensive, all-inclusive.
Holistic health teaches us to care
for ourselves in three areas:
body – mind – spirit /soul/
1. Body: food, clothing, cosmetics,
exercise, and relaxation to unwind
and reduce tension in the body.
Take care of the body by eating good
quality and varied food, supplements,
vitamins, herbs, drink water and
fluids every day /water cleanses
the body, some fruits and vegetables
also cleanse the body/ and take
medicines when needed.
For this purpose, you can make
the following autosuggestion
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I always eat
the most beneficial food, water,
fluids and nutritional supplements,
which makes me feel perfectly
healthy and perfectly beautiful.’
Wear comfortable clothes and shoes
that are made of materials that are
good for your body.
Use cosmetics that make you look
beautiful and are healthy for your
face, hair and body.
For this purpose, you can make
the following autosuggestion
sentence:
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‘I am grateful that I always have an
abundance of the most wonderful
and the most useful to me clothes,
shoes, undergarments, cosmetics,
jewellery and accessories, which
make me feel completely healthy
and beautiful.’
Exercise at home, play sports in
gyms and sports halls, buy sports
appliances, swim, cycle, walk every
day and others.
Exercising helps maintain a healthy
bone system and good circulation.
To relax go on vacation on
the seaside or in the mountains,
to spa breaks, mineral water pools,
massages, buy yourself a handheld
massages, take a walk in nature,
listen to music that gives you
pleasure, and more.
Relaxation improves the nervous
system and the psyche.
* Choose exercise and relaxation
activities that you enjoy and do
them at a pace that works best
for you and gives you pleasure.
2. Mind: To love yourself,
autosuggestion and new knowledge.
Everyone’s mind can work for him or
it will work against him. It depends
on the mindset and habits.
Through autosuggestion and
prayers, you can change your
mindset and habits, thereby also
changing the habits of your mind
to teach it to work in your favor.
For the mind, the most important
thing is to teach to love,
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cherish and respect yourself in order
to be successful and happy. For this
purpose, you can make the following
autosuggestion sentence:
‘I am grateful that I fully love myself
and fully approve of myself and all
my beliefs are fully beneficial to me.’
Write two prayers with this sentence:
‘I fully love myself and fully approve
of myself and all my beliefs are fully
beneficial to me, which makes me
feel utterly happy.’
The first prayer is to help you for
a certain period of one, two or
three years, and to specify exactly
for which years.
And the second prayer is to show
your gratitude, by saying the prayer
once a week so you can achieve
results faster.
Constantly learn new knowledge.
The more knowledge you have,
the more opportunities you find
for a better and happier life.
Go to the theater, opera, ballet,
concerts, art galleries, museums
– it is a beneficial art therapy
for the mind and soul.
3. Spirit: Good values, prayers
and forgiveness.
Your value system is formed from
your habits, beliefs and your opinion
of yourself.
In order to have a good value
system and for your habits, beliefs,
and opinion of yourself to be
beneficial to you, you must
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approve of and love yourself in every
moment for the rest of your life.
For this purpose, you can do
the following autosuggestion
sentences:
‘I am grateful that I fully approve
of myself and all of my beliefs are
fully beneficial to me.’
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
noble, utterly generous, utterly
wise and fully confident in myself.’
Write a prayer with both sentences
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with these
sentences to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
Pray for health, happiness and for
all things that are important to you.
In order to feel good and to lead
a happy life you need to forgive
fully yourself and everyone else,
for everything.
Laughter and a sense of humor heal
the mind and soul, so watch comedy
movies and shows. Strive to have
a sense of humor and laugh with
all your soul.
If you don’t take care of one of
the elements of holistic health
you will be unbalanced and
cannot be healthy and happy.
* We must take very good care
of our body, mind and spirit to
be healthy, wholesome, happy,
poised, balanced and confident.
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FORGIVENESS AND PAST
Everything we have done in our past
and all the experience we have
gained up to this point has shaped
us into who we are now.
To live happily we need to forgive
ourselves and other people and let
go of our past so that we can feel
completely free and totally
independent.
People who love, respect and
approve of themselves easily forgive
themselves and other people and
therefore feel free and independent.
When you cannot forgive, you will
become dependent
on these feelings.
These feelings are like a snowball
that will quickly grow each time you
cannot forgive and your life will
become miserable.
When you can’t forgive yourself,
these feelings will make you think
that you are not a good person,
which is a prerequisite to believe
that you should not respect, value,
love or approve of yourself.
* We need to fully forgive ourselves
and other people in order to be able
to respect, love, value and approve
of ourselves.
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Forgiveness is a way to free ourselves
from the influence of our pastто.
No one is perfect, so you must
forgive yourself first and then
forgive others, too, so that they
will forgive you too.
* When we forgive at the moment
of the occurrence, we feel completely
free, completely independent, and
we feel greater security.
In order to be able to forgive
at the moment of the occurrence,
and to feel completely free
and independent, you can use
the following autosuggestion
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I forgive myself
completely, I forgive everyone
completely, and I let go of my past,
and I am completely free.
* This autosuggestion also helps
to achieve a healthy body weight.
There is no perfect past.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself
for things you did or did not do
in your past.
The past should serve only as
a lesson, so that you don’t repeat
your mistakes.
It is important to learn from our
mistakes and realize that we should
live our lives now, in the present,
not in the past or in the future.
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When you let go of your past by not
thinking about it, you free up time
and energy to act on your goals and
dreams in the present.
Every person is given challenges
in life that they must overcome in
order to get better and live happily.
So don’t spend time dwelling on
your past, just take a lesson from it
and focus your thoughts on solving
the challenges ahead of you.
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TAKE ACTION
The success in any person’s life is
the result of their thoughts, beliefs,
and actions.
Even if you don’t have a goal and
even if you are passive, when you say
the following three autosuggestion
sentences several times each
morning and evening, they can
trigger your creative powers and
help you achieve a successful
and happy life.
You need to repeat them for at least
one year in the morning and
in the evening several times,
for less than three minutes,
to become successful and happy.
Write these sentences down right
now on a piece of paper and place
this piece of paper somewhere you
can see it every day to remind you
of your daily autosuggestion:
‘I am grateful that I fully approve
of myself and all of my beliefs are
fully beneficial to me.’
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
initiative, utterly generous, utterly
wise and utterly noble, which
makes me feel utterly happy.’
‘I am grateful that I am completely
healthy and completely happy.’
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To be wise is to judge how things
arose in the past and how they
may develop in the future, so it is
included in the second sentence
of autosuggestion.
At the end of the same sentence
is included ‘which makes me feel
utterly happy’ – this is mandatory,
as you might be initiative, generous,
wise, and noble,
but even with those traits you might
not feel happy if you allow other
people to control your life.
With this quote: ‘which makes me
feel utterly happy’ you trigger actions
which are only for your benefit, so
that you may feel utterly happy.
To speed up the fulfillment of these
three self suggestion sentences, write
on a piece of paper the following
prayer to give thanks once a week
for the same things which are
in autosuggestion sentences:
‘God, I thank You for Your help,
for I am completely healthy and
completely happy, and I fully
approve of myself and all of my
beliefs are fully beneficial to me.
Thank You for Your help, as I am
utterly initiative, utterly generous,
utterly wise and utterly noble which
makes me feel utterly happy.
And for all things for which I thank
You, are for the good of all. Amen!’
Even if you do not believe in prayer,
it is enough to desire it, and it still
help you achieve the things that
you are grateful for in prayer.
Say the prayer once a week
with a sense of gratitude.
To speed up the fulfillment of your
wishes, you can autosuggestion,
once a week when it is most
convenient for you,
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by saying the following sentence:
‘I deserve the best in life and
I accept it with love and gratitude,
now and in the future.’
This autosuggestion sentence is
affirming and can trigger your
initiative.
You should determine your life by
acting on a plan for each of your
goals and helping yourself with
autosuggestion and prayers.
Inaction will only bring you unhappy
life. You must control your life and
you must not allow yourself to
control life other people’s.
Your actions in the present
determine your future.
Seek out new opportunities and
immediately take action if they
would be beneficial for you.
You need to adapt quickly to any
change that is good for you.
Every subsequent change, no matter
what kind, that is better and more
effective negates the previous
change.
This is the second law of dialectical
materialism:
‘The negation of the negation’
The new change negates the old
a change which, when it was new
has denied the previous change
and so on.
Lovingly accept any new change that
is better than the previous and think
how you can take advantage of it to
improve your life.
Always co-operate when you feel it is
good for you and for everyone else.
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Help others provided it is not at
the expense of your physical and
mental health. Show compassion
first to yourself and then, when
possible, for other people.
Value your time and do not compare
yourself to your colleagues,
neighbors, friends and relatives
because their physical and spiritual
needs do not match yours.
Build a lifestyle that suits your
physical and spiritual needs.
The lifestyle you build is only right
for you because each person
is unique and special.
Encourage yourself, when
your decision has not brought
the desired result.
Analyze what to improve in your
actions and don’t stop making
decisions and taking action.
In this way you gain experience,
which leads to making more good
decisions that help you succeed,
you become better in your actions
to achieve your goals, and your
faith that you can cope with any
challenges in your life grows
even more.
When you think you can’t succeed,
you will cause your own setbacks
in life. Reconciliation up with
unpleasant situations in your life
will prolong them and limit you.
Reconciliation will limit you and that
will bring unhappiness in your life.
In order to get rid of reconciliation
and so that you can take action
to improve your life, you can do
autosuggestion with the following
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
initiative, and all of my beliefs
are fully beneficial to me.
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The reconciliation has nothing to
do with humility. Each person must
be humble to something that is not
up to them and they cannot change.
Accept calmly the things that are
outside of your control and continue
going forward on your way.
When you feel that something is not
going well, remember the good
times in your life to trigger positive
thoughts to better cope with
the situation.
When you start feeling you lack
motivation to keep going, you can
do autosuggestion with
the following sentences:
‘I am grateful that I am completely
healthy and completely beautiful,
which makes me feel completely
healthy and completely beautiful.’
‘I am grateful that I am completely
happy and my life is completely
wonderful, which makes me feel
completely happy.’
Write a prayer using both sentences
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and
to specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with these
sentences to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
When you look into your past
for the cause of the trouble in
the present, you will be reinforcing
the unpleasant experiences of your
past that you are trying to get rid of.
Don’t look for solutions outside
yourself or in your past, you won’t
find them there.
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When learn and our knowledge and
skills grow, we begin to find more
opportunities to accomplish our
goals and dreams and become better
at achieving the desired success.
* We need to spend the rest of our
lives gaining new knowledge and
new skills so that new opportunities
open up for us and we can achieve
a happy life.
Higher education and continuous
learning, no matter in which field,
are prerequisites for broadening
one’s worldview, but not enough
to change one’s mindset, beliefs,
habits, and character.
To change your mindsets, beliefs,
habits, and character, your actions
must be specific, purposeful,
consistent and sustained until
the desired change is achieved.
You don’t need special training,
money, a high position at work,
or a doctorate in psychotherapy
to change and take action to lead
a better and happier life.
To change for a better life,
you need only two things:
First you want to change.
Second to take action to change.
Many people set a limit in their lives
by believing that they are
the healthiest and most beautiful
by 45 or 50 or some other age,
and after they pass this age limit that
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they have determined by themselves,
they will start aging physically and
mentally.
Don’t suggest yourself that and don’t
set a limit for yourself so that you
have opportunities to maintain good
health and good looks for the rest
of your life, so that you can live
happily.
We cause events in our lives by
attracting them with our mindset
and beliefs. Every choice we make
is a cause and our actions are
the consequences of those choices.
There are many timeless proverbs
about cause and effect:
‘Learn to give so you can take.’
‘You reap what you sow.’
‘Knowledge is power, power is
success.’
Value your time and money and plan
how to spend them in the best way
for you.
Be grateful for every good thing
in your life. Every good thing in your
life has a price and it is best to pay
the price up front with the good you
do for yourself and other people.
Live at a pace that is best for you.
Be grateful when you find flaws
in yourself that will limit you and
take action to remove of them.
The only way to remove something
from your life that you don’t want
is to carefully and lovingly remove
it and even appreciate what it has
taught you.
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If you decide to look for another way
to improve your life, other than with
autosuggestion and prayer, make
sure to avoid methods which you
are not acquainted with.
For example, do not under any
circumstances repeat a text that
you do not understand.
You can also improve your life
by reading this book slowly and
highlighting in the book the things
that are important to you.
Then you can reread the specific
quotes you highlighted every week
to help yourself lead a better life.
There are many successful people all
around. They are successful because
they take action and believe in their
own strengths, they consider
themselves valuable and special, they
love themselves and believe that
their success depends only on them.
Give yourself praise every day, even
for small things, when you do
something well.
This strengthens the spirit and,
in this way, we approve of,
appreciate and feel confident
in ourselves.
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THE DARK AND THE LIGHT SIDE
To be balanced and at peace with
yourself, it is absolutely necessary to
respect the dark side that everyone
has within.
The dark side manifests itself through
the weaknesses that everyone has.
The dark side shows which are
the weaknesses of each person,
and they can decide to get rid
of them in order to lead
a better and happier life.
The light side manifests itself
through our actions for a better
and happier life, it removes
the weaknesses by changing our
mindset, habits and beliefs with
autosuggestion and prayers.
When the light side has removed
a weakness, the dark side is thus
released from it and is again
activated by manifesting in the next
weakness.
Perfect people without weaknesses
do not exist.
* It is necessary for each person to
control the dark and light side of
themself, by becoming aware of their
weaknesses and taking action
to removal of them, through
autosuggestion and prayers,
in order to live happily.
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The darkness and light in us are
opposite in manifestation. The dark
side shows our weaknesses, the light
side hides them by removing them
which happens after we change our
mindset, habits and beliefs with
the help of autosuggestion and
prayers.
Although they might be opposite
in their action, the dark and light
sides in us complement each other,
and create one whole, for one side
is a condition for the existence of
the other side.
The third law of dialectical
materialism is at work here:
‘The unity and struggle of opposites’
This law operates in every aspect
of life. For example, production and
consumption – production creates,
consumption destroys.
When there is no production there
can be no consumption and vice
versa when there is no consumption
there can be no production.
Although production and
consumption are opposite in their
action, they complement each other
and create a whole system.
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REALITY AND HARMONY
Don’t just focus on one area and take
action for your overall development.
A person is happy when they achieve
success in important areas like health,
personal life, work and others that are
important to the individual.
Escaping from reality is when you
think your life will change if you
move to live in another place, or
some event happens to you, such
as a wedding, new love, new job, etc.
You carry your mindset, your habits,
and your character with you wherever
you go and whatever happens to you.
Moving to another place or an event
such as a wedding, new love,
new job, etc. will not change you.
No matter where you are, you
remain the same person that
you are in the present moment.
You need to realistically assess your
life and take action to change your
mindset, habits and beliefs to
achieve a better and happier life.
When you want to get an education
and build a career, you need to set
goals, but to be happy it is not
enough to set goals and achieve
them, we also need to accept
ourselves as we are now.
Eastern philosophy has built a model
of existence: existence itself is
enough. To be calm, balanced
and happy, you must accept that
it is enough that you exist.
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Be grateful that you exist. When one
is grateful, one is radiant and always
ready to do good to oneself
and other people.
When you are grateful for something
that you have, then that something
is magnified in your life.
Don’t confuse your self-esteem with
failure when it happens to you.
When you have failed at something,
it doesn’t mean that you are not
good at it, smart, or confident,
it just means that you have failed
at this moment.
You may not like your behavior
at a given moment, but that has
nothing to do with your opinion
of yourself that you are good,
confident, smart and special.
Guard your value system, which
includes your evaluation of yourself,
and don’t let temporary feelings
and isolated incidents affect your
self-esteem and your confidence.
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HAPPINESS
Happiness, personal growth, and
becoming at peace with oneself and
with other people does not happen
once and for all and does not
depend on external factors.
It is a developmental process and
continues for the rest of our lives
that we build with our thoughts,
beliefs and actions.
One of the most valuable qualities
of any person is when they can have
a beneficial impact on many people
with affection and love.
And the greater that impact,
the more we define such
personalities as stars.
These stars uplift the spirits of many
people, and that is why we love them.
Your happiness in life depends on
your ability to learn a lot about
the field you are working in and
perform very well in it.
This helps you advance in other
areas that are important to you.
Setbacks challenge and create our
courage and initiative which are
necessary for our intellectual and
spiritual growth for a happy life.
The intellectual and spiritual growth
of each person that helps them
live a happy life contributes to
the intellectual and spiritual growth
of the whole society and to their
happy life.
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Every successful person has gone
through many failures and after
each failure has become better
at what they do.
People who succeed value their time
and energy, so they carefully plan
how to spend it.
People who succeed don’t have time
to be interested in other people
because act constantly to achieve
their goals and dreams.
When we fully approve of ourselves,
love ourselves, and forgive ourselves
and other people with ease, only
then do we gain the ability to have
many and good social interactions
and fulfilling relationships with
everyone in our lives.
* Each person is confident in
themselves and believes in their own
decisions and actions only when they
love and approve of themselves in
every moment.
There are no irreversible
circumstances, everything can
change for a better and happier life.
When we rejoice for other people’s
success, we open a channel of
success to ourselves and many
possibilities open up before us, with
which people help and support us.
* There are countless possibilities
for the solution of any task.
So do not allow your dignity to
become a bargaining chip for
material goods.
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The most valuable choice for any
person is when they choose to
change for the better by learning,
taking action and growing from
their experiences.
In order to achieve success and
a happy life, you can do
autosuggestion with the following
sentence:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
noble, utterly initiative, utterly
wise, utterly generous and I fully
approve of myself.’
You need to repeat this
sentence for at least a year,
morning and evening for three
minutes.
Write a prayer with the sentence:
‘I am utterly noble, utterly initiative,
utterly wise, utterly generous and
I fully approve of myself, which
makes me fully happy.’
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with this
sentence to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
* Your principles and the control
of your life through autosuggestion
and prayers are the most important
things for you to have balance
and harmony in your life, and
to live happily.
Every person deserves the best in life,
so always accept every good thing
in your life with love and gratitude
to increase it in the way of the law
of increasing returns.
You should be able to enjoy life,
thereby maintaining a positive
mental attitude which is necessary
to realize your goals and dreams.
For this purpose, you can make
the following autosuggestion
sentence:
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‘I am grateful that I fully appreciate
the well-being in my life and fully
enjoy it.’
One of the most valuable qualities
in a person’s character is when they
can enjoy another’s well-being and
another’s happiness.
When you get into the habit of
enjoying other people’s well-being
and other people’s happiness, then
you enter into a higher level of
happy living and achieve with ease
the better and happier life you want
for yourself.
In order to enjoy someone
else’s happiness, you can do
autosuggestion with the following
sentences, for at least one year:
‘I am grateful that I am utterly
noble, and I fully approve of myself
and all my beliefs are fully
beneficial to me, which makes
me feel utterly happy.’
‘I am grateful that I am happy for
my well-being and the well-being
of others people, which makes me
feel utterly happy.’
Write a prayer with both sentences
to help yourself for a certain period
of one, two or three years, and to
specify exactly for which years.
Write another prayer with these
sentences to show your gratitude
saying the prayer once a week,
so that you can get results quicker.
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There is no set amount of prayers
per person, but when you go past
15 prayers for a set period, consider
how you can reduce the number
of prayers.
Old age is a very beneficial part of
a person’s life. You have more time
to grow spiritually and mentally
because you are now free from
the responsibilities of building
a career and raising children.
To live happily you must love
your parents even when they have
changed physically and mentally
due to their old age.
Dream of all sorts of wonderful
things – going on cruises, excursions,
yacht trips, going to culinary and
other exhibitions, going on vacations
to the most wonderful resorts,
attending the most prestigious
fashion shows, etc.
and take action to make
those dreams come.
The International Day of Happiness
is celebrated on March 20, in
accordance with the United Nations
General Assembly resolution of June
28, 2012, which declared that
the pursuit of happiness and well
being is a fundamental goal
of humanity.
* Happiness should be the goal
of any state policy to ensure
a happy life for the whole society
in a sustainable manner.
The date March 20 was chosen as
the International Day of Happiness
because it is on
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then the length of day and night
is equalized, and it is a message
of harmony, equality, and stability
and from this date the day and light
begin to grow.
Always celebrate this holiday
and wish a ‘Happy International
Day of Happiness!’ to your friends
and family.
On this day you can buy yourself
something you always wanted to
have. You can make a grand meal
for yourself and your loved ones.
On this day, give happiness to other
people by inviting a friend to treat
them for the holiday, by giving
a loved one flowers, candy or
something else to make them
feel happy.
* The classic path to a happy life is:
1. Autosuggestion with sentences
Do daily autosuggestion with
sentences that make you feel
confident, poised, and with
which you can achieve success
and a happy life.
You can take breaks as you choose –
for example, one day a week or
a month, or when you go on trips
and holidays. You need to assess
and decide if you need breaks and
when to take them.
2. Prayers to ask for help
Write prayers using the same
sentences that you repeat for
autosuggestion to ask for help
for a certain
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period of one, two or three years,
and specify in your prayer exactly
for which years.
Say each prayer only once, written
on a piece of paper, before or after
the first year of the period begins.
After the prayer period has passed,
burn the piece of paper that contains
the prayer.
During the prayer period, do not
read the prayer from the sheet and
don’t even say it again in your mind,
and do not make other prayers for
the same thing.
In the prayer, you can write several
different things that you want help
with, provided they are not
contradicting each other.
3. Prayers to give thanks
You can say prayers to show
gratitude once a week using
the same sentences that you repeat
for autosuggestion in order to
achieve more quickly the things you
are being thankful for in your prayer.
You can give thanks for several
different things, provided they
are not contradicting each other.
Write the prayer to show gratitude
on a piece of paper so you can be
accurate each time you say
the prayer.
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SOCIETY
You must master the art of living
happily by getting to know your own
value and realizing that you are part
of society.
Every person needs to change
because the means of production
and services are constantly being
improved, which in turn changes
production and social relations.
In order to live happily, you must
always feel part of society and
realize that you are dependent
on the changes of production
and social relations.
Even if you have everything you want,
when you are separated from society,
you cannot be whole and happy.
You can only be happy when you feel
part of society and make changes
yourself along with the changes
of production and social relations,
in order to lead a better life.
The more civilized a society is,
the more it changes peacefully and
the more it makes decisions that
are beneficial for the whole society.
In prosperous countries, decisions
to improve the lives of the whole
society are arranged in programs
for several years or decades ahead.
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* The meaning of the life
of the whole society in
the realization of its values.
The best relationships in society are
those in which a good life is secured
for everyone, and in which equality
is created in the opportunities with
which each person can realize his or
her goals and dreams when he or
she has the knowledge, experience
and courage to make them a reality.
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I DEDICATE
This book shows how change can
help you lead a better and happier
life. This change requires courage,
perseverance, strong will and action.
By taking complete control of our
thoughts, beliefs and actions,
through autosuggestion and prayers,
we can achieve the success we want.
We must constantly take action
to ensure our own happiness.
Happiness comes from us and
cannot come from external factors
or other people.
Enjoy every change you make for
a better life and reward yourself with
something nice for every success.
Continue with the autosuggestion
exercises and the prayers for
the rest of your life, changing
them depending on what you
want to achieve at the moment.
Autosuggestion and prayers are
timeless, and these ways to improve
your life have been around for many
centuries.
When you control your mindset,
your beliefs, and your actions
through autosuggestion and
prayers, you also control your
feelings, emotions, imagination,
mind, and ego.
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Everyone has their own mission
in life. That mission is to become
a better person, no matter what
they need to realize and what
limitations they need to break
free from.
All this again leads to a better
and happier life.
Dear reader, change is not easy and
it is achieved only after many years
of effort and continues to occur for
the rest of our lives.
When you change in order to lead
a better life, you begin to feel
confident, balanced, and to attract
happy and wonderful events into
your life.
Don’t miss the chance to change
so you can live happily and have
a wonderful life.
It’s up to you, you just have to make
choices and take action to make
them come true.
We need to create happy and
wonderful events in our lives
and then store them to remember
when we want them to fuel us
with positive energy.
I bring forth happy and wonderful
events in my life with the help
of autosuggestion and prayers.
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Be courageous and open to the new
and the unknown in order to lead an
exciting, happy and wonderful life.
I dedicate this book
*THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN*
to everyone who reads it.
Choose from the book
self-suggestion sentences that can
help you stay healthy and happy
and take action.
When you read the book
„The happiness is within“ just once,
nothing will change in your life.
Only when you practice constantly
and continuously the ways described
in the book „The happiness is within“
can you achieve everything you want.
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ABOUT ME
I was raised by my parents and
I have no siblings. I loved my parents
and they loved me, too.
They did not give me much advise,
therefore since I was a little girl,
I took all my decisions by myself.
I was born in the town of Pleven on
March 10, 1947. A few years after
the Second World War, the goods
in the shops were insufficient
for the populace.
My mother used to tell me that after
she gave birth to me, in order to buy
me a tub to bathe me in, she went to
the front of the store at night so that
she would be the first one out when
the store opened.
Many customers came after that,
and she was able to buy me a tub
only because she was waiting
throughout the night.
My parents and I lived in two houses
in a courtyard with many flowers
and two trees in the town of Pleven.
One house my parents rented out
until I was older.
My mother was very practical, very
positive and had a good sense of
humor. My father had an aristocratic
mindset, he was very considerate
even when challenged.
In the evenings, when my parents
came home from work, they would
find the food they had left me for
lunch untouched.
I used to spend the whole day
playing with other children who
lived on our street.
One night when my mother came
home from work, she showed me
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the food she had left for lunch
in the cupboard and there was
my favorite wafer for dessert.
I felt very special because my mother
wanted to make me happy by buying
me my favorite dessert.
I loved reading children’s books and
hid them between my textbooks to
read because, after finished studying
and did my homework, my parents
would make me go to sleep, because
I would have to get up early the next
day to eat breakfast, I used to walk
for more than 10 minutes by foot
to my school.
My mother was born in the village
of Mikre, 60 km away from the town
of Pleven.
There were about 30 houses
in the village of Mikre, which were
a two-hour walk from the village,
up the mountain to the top
of the ridge.
My mother and her whole family
grew up in one of these houses
in the mountains.
When I was a schoolgirl during
the summer vacation, my parents
used to send me to visit my
grandparents in the mountains
for two or three weeks.
Those were the most wonderful
times for me.
I still remember the beautiful
landscapes of nature and
the fragrance of the flowers
and herbs in the fields.
My grandmother would take me
and my two cousins into the woods
to eat wild fragrant strawberries.
There was a river nearby and my
grandfather and I used to go fishing
with a hand cast fishing net.
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The river was small and very
romantic, or at least this is how
it has remained in my memories.
My grandfather was a house builder
and had built half the houses
in the village of Mikre. He had
also built a two floors house
in the village for his family.
When my grandfather passed away,
my grandmother moved to live
in that house. She lived for more
than 90 years. The houses that were
in the mountain no longer exist.
I am left only with the memories
of them. Over the years I continue to
remember the wonderful emotions
I experienced during those vacations.
I finished my secondary education
with Russian and German in the town
of Pleven. Later I completed two
courses in learning English.
After finishing my secondary
education, I worked as a perfume
shop assistant for about 12 years.
At that time I had a hobby and
collected colored postage stamps.
I worked for about two years as
a confectionery saleswoman and
for about a year in a printing house.
After that I was a teacher of
mathematics, physics and other
subjects for three years in three
different villages near my hometown
of Pleven.
I was also a troop leader in my last
year as a teacher. On February 20,
1991 I registered my own tourist
company.
My father was born in the town
of Pleven. He had received a medal
for participation in the Second World.
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War and I still keep it. After the war
my father was a national guard for
the head of state in the capital of
the country.
He later worked as a buyer in a state
enterprise that bought and resold
animals.
My mother worked in a brigade
that sorted grapes into crates on
the vineyards for export, then she
was a cleaner in the same enterprise
where my father worked.
My father passed away at the age
of 81. The last night before he died,
the three of us – my father, my
mother, and I – had dinner and drank
red wine. It was a farewell to us.
He loved us – my mother and me
and his grandson very much. My
mother also died at the age of 81,
three years after my father died.
When I was about 30 years old,
I decided to write a book to help
people lead better and happier lives.
Over the years I gathered notes
about the book I wanted to write.
After I wrote the book, I made
hundreds of edits over the last few
years to make it easy for everyone
to understand and to be able
to reach many people.
With the book, I want to convey my
way of achieving my desires and
dreams. In the book I have described
what I believe in and my principles.
I believe that there are countless
possibilities for resolving a each task.
Love is everywhere when I love and
I am loved. I prefer to live only
in the present
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knowing that it is always filled with
joy, affection, support and love.
Author: Rossi Parvanovа
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Afterword:
When you read the book
„THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN“ just once,
nothing will change in your life. Only
when you constantly and continuously
practice the ways described in the book
„The happiness is within“ can you
achieve everything you want, and then
the possibilities for your goals and
dreams are revealed to you and you
attract happy events in your life!
Author: ROSSI PARVANOVA
The covers pictures:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Publisher, Corrector and Editor:
ROSSI PARVANOVA
Printing house: PULSIO AD
The city of Sofia 1592, Druzhba,
“Iliya Beshkov” str. No.3
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ISBN 978-619-04-0547-4
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
The book * THE HAPPINESS IS WITHIN *
may not be published or distributed,
in whole or in part, in any form or by
any means, without the permission
of the author. Those who violate
the copyright law will suffer all
its legal consequences.
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